Showing posts with label How to Get the Spanking You Want. Show all posts
Showing posts with label How to Get the Spanking You Want. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

7.14 Diary

Off work and rolling home  6:34
I think I feel asleep  22 times on the way home... only for a micro second, woken up by the bumps embedded in the freeway surface.
Home 07:34.
Fed the critters...
Went into Her bedroom, and lay down next to Her long enough to tell Her I was too tired to do anything but eat, then go to bed.
Which I proceeded to do.
...Eat,  finished Sunday's paper, and read Monday's, while talking to Her...
and to bed, 10:00.
Awake at 1100 P&S
Sleeping  from 1200 to 1615,  and wide awake.
Around 1815, SD&D.
Sidetracked with talking, didn't get in my car until  1900.... a bit later than I like, even on Monday.
At work  19:40.

Fairly easy night...
   Relatively speaking....
15 cars on yet another Fox event, at Paramount...
And I don't know what the FUCK was going on at LAX....but I had to delay with 8 to 10 delayed flights,  coming in between 0130 and 0330,  and explaining to chauffeurs why I need them to stay awake to do the pickups.

HsLS  45
HsLO  45
HsLD  47
Hr Lk /un 164/46
Her DO  No


from How to Get the Spanking You Want

Instead, you’re better of sticking to the facts and leaving the analysis of why things went wrong until later. For instance, you might simply explain that it hurt more than you were prepared for or that you were having trouble breathing or that you momentarily got emotionally overwhelmed.
Focusing on just the facts will help diffuse the tension of the situation and create a safe space where you and your partner can talk about what went wrong and work together to help it not happen again. Sticking to the facts will also help to reassure your partner and give him a sense of control and safety – as we’ve discussed, men tend to be most comfortable dealing with facts rather than emotions.

Step 6: Take your spanking.
If you want to establish a positive spanking relationship, you are probably better off finishing the spanking instead of just abandoning it entirely. This is similar to the classic advice about getting back on a horse if you fall off, so that you’re not afraid to ride horses for the rest of your life.
You may feel able to get back on the horse, so to speak, within a few minutes after things went wrong. Or it might take an hour or a day before you feel safe enough to take the rest of the spanking. But whatever you do, you’d be wise not to leave things the way they are.

Why?

Because you are much more likely to feel more anxiety when the next spanking rolls around if you haven’t stepped up and taken the one you didn’t finish. And this anxiety might, in turn, make it even harder to take the next spanking and so on and so on, until you’re in a such tangled mess of anxiety that it becomes difficult or even impossible to get yourself back out of it.
In addition, if you don’t step up and finish your spanking, you are probably going to feel lousy about yourself. You may, for example, feel like a coward, a fool, or even a hypocrite – spanking was your idea, and you couldn’t even go through with it!
You may also feel restless and incomplete, like you heard the first seven notes of the musical scale, but not the eighth one, or watched all but the last 15 minutes of a really good movie. Or like there was something really important that you had to, but can’t remember what it is.
So when you feel ready to do so – but ideally no later than the next day – go to your partner and ask him, respectfully and with great humility, if you could please have the rest of your spanking, (sir)?

And this time, stay in position and take your spanking like a good girl (or boy)… ?!        The End

Monday, July 14, 2014

7.13 Happy Birthday, Beloved Merry!

Merry was still playing with "Mike" ...  I found a couch I could sit and lean back on, and a loose chair to put up my feet.....ready to take a nap.  I DID bring earplugs so most of the din and cacophony was muffled.
I watched unattached Dommes walking around, not busy, glancing at me, and looking straight through me.

I'm in a pool of six guys, from which a five-man basketball team is being chosen.   Guess what happens to me?
I do not like parties, for this reason.

I was ONE minute....  just sixty seconds..away from getting up, getting dressed, and telling Merry to take Her time,  that I would be sleeping in the car, ready to go whenever She was.

Then L.K. came rushing up to me, or so it seemed.
"Shilo, does your Mistress allow you to play with others?"
"Well, yes......"   Kind of odd question, but correct in formality, and LK has never seen me play with another, when Merry was 'in the house'...
"I've got a Domme who is looking for a heavy masochist.... would you like to meet her?"
"Yeah..sure..."
In the other Large Room, she was sitting...and had been for a long part of the evening.

Her name was MistressT;  she was short (relative to me), heavy,  black..
We prenegotiated  (no face slapping, or cock n ball hits..)
Then we found an open station, a St Andrews cross  (that Merry had just finished up with, with Mike....)

I leaned up against, facing the cross... and she went to work  on my, on my buttocks and on my back.

She finally got me to cry out, after 20 minutes of intensive therapy to my sunburned back, and hits too high on my thighs...on my lower back, and plenty of wrapping.....

Merry told me later, that the Dungeon Monitor tried to stop it, but L.K. stopped him, saying that Merry was watching, Merry would stop it if she saw fit.
She did see fit, and Merry went to MistressT and ..stopped it.
And came up behind me, offering water...
And my knees gave way, and I crumpled to the floor.
Merry just ...held me... until I had the strength to get up....  and get dressed.
We departed.
Not far from home, we stopped out for a soda to take home.
Home....we took a shower together, then sat down for  dessert of frozen eclair and soda...
On into the bedroom...
Where much to our surprise,  Sherman's dog, Beaux, came in , hopped up on the bed, and got comfortable on one of my pillows.
She was ready after very little foreplay....   and told me to cut the plastic lock, and take of the silicon chastity device that my penis had been cage in, since last Sunday...
A little bit of manipulation and stroking the head of my penis against and inside Her wet kitkat  got it hard and erect, and I plunged forward...
She calls this, "having sex."
Well, THIS was FUCKING.
And it was good.
 During the act, I had a vision, a fantasy in my head of:
  A woman finds a stash of porno magazines, belong to her husband or son or nephew or... I'm not clear on the relation.  The magazines are titles like Corporal, Ma'am, DWC...   basically, Fem Dom punishment and spanking.    She gets hold of the male in question, says, "Let's see how you like this for real" and has him naked, and over her lap,  whapping his bottom long and hard with hairbrush/paddle.
  And I ... came.
Then I had to clean up,  going down between her legs, and sucking her juice and my cum out of her.
   and to sleep 0300.

I was awake, for P&S, when Sherman walked in, around 0410.
I got the use of my pillow back.

0900 or so, up.
Cinnamon toast and coffee.    New contact lenses in. Almost lost one in the bathroom sink.
She was at Her computer, I was at my laptop(s).  Sherman was reading something from his smartphone.
She heard Stitch, in the other room, making plans to go meet his ex-girlfriend.
She called him into the room.  "Don't you know today is my birthday?"
"I thought that was yesterday."

Oh, FFS.
 I yelled out, "Do you know how to read a calendar?:  but he didn't answer.
He is a really nice guy, and means well in all the dumb shit he does on a daily basis.
I've started putting up signs around the house.
"Leave this washrag alone."
"Do NOT turn this fan off."
I'm sure I'll be putting up more signs.
Somewhere, outside of Chicago, there's a village,  taking up a collection each day,  trying to raise the money to get their idiot to come home.

At my suggestion, Merry agreed to a communal birthday spanking...   18 bare handed smacks on Her ample, gorgeous, lush buttocks from the three of us.
She wanted to be on the spanking bench, so I dragged it out to the center of the living room floor, and fetched the video camera....
She started with a monologue about how She is the Dominant in the house, and that She was allowing this to happen....
I said, "Okay that was a rehearsal, now I'm going to push the 'record' button...."

I recorded while Sherman got the first 18 or 19 smacks.
Sherman recorded while Stitch delivered 20 or so left handed smacks (and I was washing my hands).
And Sherman held the camera while I delivered exactly 18 smacks.
Her cheeks grew a lovely shade of red... then she sat up, and talked a bit to the camera...and it was finished.

I uploaded the video from camera to laptop.... converted it to WMV... then uploaded it onto Her profile on FL.

She fell asleep for a nap, in Her easy chair (now Sherman's bed, for the most part)....
Time for me to get moving, so I got up and showered/dried/dressed.
Poured two big travel mugs of tea, and packed bags.
She had asked me to bring to Her some wipes.
I brought Her a pouch of them, that were in an airlocked baggie.
"I wanted them in a plastic box..."
OH, for fuck's sake!
What the FUCK is the difference?
These wipe just as well, do they not?
Or maybe the color is wrong?
Or I should have put them on your left side, and not your right side?
Hey Zeus  Aaych Bar  Ker RICED.

Out to the car and rolling 1410
At the office 1500.
In the boss's office, doing next day's set up.
Exchanging emails with the boss, towards the goal, of getting off for some hours next Sunday.
But, couldn't make it happen.

Moved into the main office when Sammy left, 1930, which meant sitting in the same room with the newest kid in the room,  The Motor Mouth Kid.
But, earlier in the week, May said, that She had warned him about just... talking to me...    and he seems to have learned something from it.
Most of his conversation was work related, and not  blah blah blah banter.
Hmmm.

HsLS  21
HsLO  21
HsLD 23
H LOCK 164  then
UNlocked  22
Her DO   YES

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
Step 4: Talk briefly about what happened...
 It's usually not a good idea to de brief about a spanking immediately afterwards, but if the whole thing falls apart before it's over, you'd be wise to talk at least a little about what happened sooner rather than later.  Talking about it as soon as possible will help alleviate any fears about what happened and avoid each of you stewing in your own fear and guilt abut having 'caused' the problem. So once you are both calm and out of the 'spanking space', consider talking briefly about what went wrong for you.  But when you do, remember, now is not the time to criticize or blame either her/him or you for whatever went wrong.                                                                                  cont'd

from Corporal Punishment: Over mother's knees
Most people I know who were subject to spanking while growing up do remember being put over their parent's knees. This position is so widely known that it is, and I believe not only in Germany, almost a synonym for spanking, as in "I will put you over my knee".  If there is a classical position when administering such forms of discipline, this is it                                                 cont'd




If a sub-male looks content or indifferent during a spanking it is a sure sign that he needs a very harsh and very prolonged punishment. The male needs to be spanked until he has shed many tears of repentance.













7.12 Diary

0100 Up, P&S
0400 up, P&S
up 0930, and feeling just   ugh....
Merry took Stitch to go pick up a friend in OC, and take that person to a meeting in Beautiful Downtown...and then Merry returned home...
While I piddled around in the kitchen...with spice jars, and reorganizing... 
And putting a cushion over the 'new' spanking bench, to see how it looks and works.
Looks pretty good, not sure how it might work.
In the bedroom, set up the black net canopy over the bed, that we bought, some 6 months ago.
Talked to Merry about calendar, and the road trip that She just got asked to go on, in September.  
In my room, looking for stories, trying to set up my other laptop (success...) ,  online updating blogs .... etc             17:40
We S,D,&D 
and packed... 
in the car  19:08 (despite Her desire to leave around 18:30)...
And arrived at the dungeon, 19:45.
And sat in the car, then talked to the Mistress who had just arrived, a few parking places over...
And had to duck,when the moron I consider THE World's Foremost Stupid Fucking Idiot came pulling in to the parking spots we were standing in, despite the other twenty or so open parking spots on the lot.
And who felt the need...after he got out of the car, to interrupt whatever conversation anybody else was having, to make himself heard, saying "hello".
May God ever forgive me,  I do despise this man.  
So, as it was explained later, the people on the inside did not know the door was still locked.
When they figured it out and unlocked it,  we were allowed in.... and paid, and were checked off the list, and took seats for the demo.
It was a class/demo on pegging.
And it felt to me like it was like the Energizer bunny.... on and on and on and on... I was about to stand up and walk out, simply had enough...
Mercifully, it ended,  930 or so.  
On to the social half hour.   Merry already had her play partners pre arranged, and I sure as hell wasn't going looking for any.
Chairs were being set up in a circle near the perimeter of the two large rooms,  then L.K. called for the subs to get into uniform, a very nice way of saying, "TIme to strip down, boys and girls!"
That done,  we were told were the heavy masochists should be, on down to the light players...and took positions.
I went to the head of the line of the heavy masochists.
I'm sure some hands landed on my bare buttocks, but I can't swear to it....
The spanking line ended around 2240, and it was open party time.
Merry's first partner was a fellow She played with, the previous month... 
Followed by another younger fellow She had played with the previous month, and was becoming very close to .....
Meanwhile,  I went in search of food, having abandoned the idea of keeping my digestive system clean,  in hopes there might be a pegging in my future.  It will happen when it's the right time for it to happen, and this night was not the right time....

HsLS  16;2
HsLO  335
HsLD 77
Hr Lock 162
Her DO  NO

from  Corporal Punishment Implements: The Slipper
 In homes, plimsolls are used, but more common is the 'real' slipper, the houseshoe.  The variety goes from rubber or plastic soles, to slippers made of leather.  The slipper is most often used because it, like the spoon,  is easily available. I know my mother sometimes took hers off while I was already over her lap.  Sometimes she took mine off as well, if other implements were not easily available....

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
Step 3:  Initiate some loving physical contact.
 Give her/him a hug or touch her/his arm, gently.  Do something to quickly establish some positive physical contact. You don't need to say much, just enjoy the touch and allow the endorphins from the spanking to subside......

from  EVERY NIGHT
This dominant wife regulates her submissive husband’s life. He has a list of domestic chores that he must perform by certain times on certain days. Neither tardiness nor sloppiness are tolerated.

Before she sends him to bed each evening he must strip naked and stand before her. If his performance has been completely satisfactory she congratulates him and gives him a firm but not harsh maintenance spanking.
If his performance as her servant was in any detail faulty, he receives a hard disciplinary spanking. The pain and duration are in proportion to his failure.
Her discipline insures that he is a husband who knows his place.


Saturday, July 12, 2014

7.11 Diary

0100 up,  P&S
0430 up, P&S
0830 up for "good"   T,  feeding, changed litter box...
Gathered trash  put some nails in the mantle over the fireplace in my bedroom, to hang bags from...
Sorted my tools..again..
AND went outside..and continued the fence-paint project...  and I finished painted the fence white on the outside, all along the south side of our property.
Went inside and cleaned up....then on into the garage, to continue comics counting....  
Then stripped off for a swim, and Merry joined me...  
Then we went in and took a shower.....
And I finally sat down, man, my feet hurt.
Tried out pencils...set up Pandora on my cell phone....
Updated calendars....  
Merry made dinner, stir fry, and announced it to be 'served'
Sitting down again, looking at EP and F/L.
Weekly reading from SOM
ANd bed...  2315.

HsLS  138
HSLO  311
HsLD  53
H LO 138
Her DO  No
from Corporal Punishment Implements: The Slipper
Most houlsehold slippers are not that harsh in effect as a real rubber-soled plimsoll, but they still deliver sound lessons.  A misbehaving child will not quickly forget a thorough dose of the slipper, delivered by an upset parent.
The slipper hurts most on the bare or knicker-covered posterior.  Thicker clothing removes much of the effect from the whacks.

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
Step 2: REassure your partner.
 AS freaked out as you might be, I can guarantee you that unless your partner is physically abusive (and if you're letting him/her spank you, he/she better not be) s/he is more freaked out than you are. As soon as you can get yourself under control, and in a reasonable space, reassure your partner that you are all right and that s/he is not a 'bad guy'.  Than her/him for spanking you, and remind him/her that learning how to do this together is a work in progress and that it is you that messed up, not her/him.
Even if this is not strictly true....even if you feel that your partner spanked you too hard or in a way that you did not want... now is not the time to bring this up, unless you want to seriously undermine your chances of getting spanked again......

from  SISSIFICATION DISCIPLINE
When disobedience requires that a submissive male be disciplined corporal punishment may not be enough. He should be punished in such a way that diminishes his masculine egotism.

Pre-spanking sissification may be a useful disciplinary technique. It will only be useful with men not routinely feminized. Use pink for best effect. Force the submale to dress up like a girl including a nice big bow for his hair.

After his spanking the submissive man should be required to wear his sissy outfit for at least an hour if not the rest of the day.

7.10 Diary

0900, up.
Dressed and off to HD, for parts to fix the toilet.
And a piece of lumber for another project...
Then to the supermarket...
and Home.
First,  I fixed the toilet. I hope   The parts I got don't really go with our toilet, but so far, it's working.
Then I took the piece of lumber, and nailed it to the top of a wooden manger that we brought home a few weeks prior... creating a bench, suitable for bending over, for .... um....  whatever works in that position.
Then rearranging my tools into various bags..... 
And it was my turn to make dinner, so I got started, with cutting up potatoes and onions and bell peppers.
A webinar was starting at 1900, that was a prerequisite for a party we planned to attend on Saturday..
Merry was watching it but the audio was horrible, and seemed to me un-watchable/un-listenable....so I continued in the kitchen....cutting up stuff, then frying off 2 lbs of bacon.  Then Merry told me the proper way to cook linguica, which I did, then threw it all together, and had two full frying pans going....
And I set the table,  and announced, "Ready"  and five of us sat down to eat.
The other guys cleaned up...
and I went to bed around 22:00.

HsLS  114
HsLO  287
HsLD  29
H LOCK  114
HER DO  NO


from How to Get the Spanking You Want
Here are some steps to take if you've bailed out mid-spanking:
 1.  Don't be too hard on yourself.
 Yes, you messed up, but it's normal and natural to do so. The more you can be matter-of-fact about your reaction, the less upset your partner will be, worrying that maybe s/he went to far and hurt you too much......

from  Corporal Punishment Implements: The Slipper 
A slipper is widely regarded as a lighter punishment than a caning.  While this is correct in general, a good dose of the slipper can be quite painful.  If the whacks are carried out hard, any pupil will have trouble sitting down afterwards.......


from  

When insubordination and recalcitrance require that a sub-male be disciplined, corporal punishment may not be enough. He should be punished in such a way that diminishes is masculine egotism.


Dildo discipline is a great secondary punishment. The penetration of his anus, being on the bottom: these things crush his illusory manly pride.
When his punitive sodomy session has concluded he should kneel and thank the woman. That he chokes on the words proves that humiliation has reminded him of his place in woman’s world.


7.09 Diary

She got up around 0630 and took D home, in time to get his ride to school.
And She returned home, while I slept..
UP 1100,  coffee and dressed.
I was prepping to do some outside work...  
She said, "I Love you," and I smart mouthed, "Yeah that and a buck might get a up of coffee..."
She told me to bend over the kitchen table, drop my pants...and She fetched a paddle.  
Thirty or so whacks from it across my buttocks left a mark and changed my attitude.  I said I did not want pictures, then...but I did take some, a few hours later...as seen in the post after this one.
So, outside....I finished..I hope, once and for all, stabilizing the wobbly fence.
Then I got out the whip...the electric string-fed weed whacker... and went to work,  first outside the fence, along the sidewalk, all the way around the house... then I moved inside, whacking the growth in the front yard...until the motor burned out. 
I did some preliminary raking.... figuring Stitch and Sherman could do the picking up and went in.
I stripped off, and took a swim in our pool...my first swim in the pool, ever... and we moved in the house, some 9 months ago.
Then laundry...
And sorting stuff in the back yard...
And cleaning out the outside bar station, followed by the grill station...
And S&D&D.
 I was outside, when She came out with my phone, having found the selfies I took,  telling me I lied about not wanting pix, and told me to get my shorts down and bend over the spa, and She fetched the wooden spoon, and smacked my buttocks a number of times.

Then I went in the garage, and went back to a long postponed project, counting my comic books, with a goal of eventually advertising them for sale as one large lot...
Inside around 20:00, an began a video upload, from the camera to my laptop, of Her birthday spanking... 
Then dinner was served...

Then to bed, around midnight.

HsLS  93
HsLO  263
HsLD  5
Hr LOCK  90
HER DO?  NO

from Corporal Punishment Implements: The Slipper
The slipper used in schools normally wasnt what you would call a slipper, really, it was a plimsoll.  With a sturdy rubber sole, it could make a thorough impression when used on some miscreant's backside.  A slippering does not leave long-lasting marks like a caning does, but it leaves the bottom hot and sore.  As the sole of the plimsoll strikes a wier area of the buttocks (for smaller backsies, it may even hit both buttocks in one stroke), the sting is not originating froma single point of impact; the whole bottom seems to be burning.....

from  How to Get the Spanking You Want 
Instead, when you're still learning about each other with regard to spanking, if you aren't able to stay in position for the spanking, the best thing to do is to stop the spanking immediately before any more damage is done to either of you.  This will give you the best opportunity to maintain trust and figure out what went wrong so that you don't make the same mistake in the future....


This is not discipline. The whipping is performed for fun. She’s a very sadistic woman. Naturally, she selected a masochist for a boyfriend. No matter how many tears he sheds, regardless of the cuts her whips and canes leaves in his skin he loves and worships her. He needs to be punished even if he has done no wrong. Her cruelty is his joy.

7.08 Diary

Off work  06:45,  home 07:25.
Feed the critters... fed myself...went to bed, for awhile,  0900.
Up 1300 for P&S,  and talk, and back to sleep, 1600.
Up again, 1800,  for S&D&D. 
She and D and I got in my car,  Stitch rode in Sherman's  and off we went to the Mex. restaurant where the monthly SB Munch was held.
It was my first time at this munch in months, because my work schedule usually involved Tuesday night.
The acoustics in the room the munch was held...
Oh my gosh.
Sounds and voices bounced off the walls.... it was horrible.
I had to go outside for awhile, to away from it.
BDL came out to check on me, and agreed, the acoustics were pretty bad.
I went back in, and changed my seat, from next to Merry, to the other side of the table, and wAAAY down at the end.  
I finished dinner, and excused myself to Merry, to go and sit in the car, while they wrapped up.
Eventually, they came out, and we caravaned home.
At home, Her and me online for awhile...and off to bed,  00:30.

HsLS  69
HsLO 239
HsLD  70
HR L  56
HER DO  NO

from  Corporal Punishment Implements:  The Slipper
The Slipper...is an implement well known for its use in British schools as well as a classic tool for parents, worldwide.  For an implement with such widespread sage, it may not be surprising to find out that there is no such thing as 'the slipper".  They come in different varieties.......

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
And in fact, imagining your partner doing just that may be very exciting and part of your spanking fantasies.
But in real life, when you're just starting out, this is a bad iea for both of you.  Forcing you to take a spanking when you're overwhelmed is much like putting a match to a powder keg- it risks putting you into emotional overload and seriously damaging the trust required between you and your partner in a good spanking relationship.  In the beginning of your relationship, you and your partner simply don't yet know eachother's spanking styles or emotional hot spots well enough to force the issue safely. ..............................

from: After the Submissive Man’s Spanking
Post Spanking Discipline
The dominant wife gave her husband a thorough spanking for accumulated minor acts of laziness, disobedience and impertinence. His discipline is as yet incomplete. Corporal punishment is only the first step in his penance.

A cold shower follows immediately after his spanking: this is to wipe away his sweat. Cold water is mandatory to keep the bath from being comforting or relaxing.
He then goes to the tiny room that he is kept in after punishment. Kneeling with head bowed he awaits his wife. Her withering and humiliating lecture outlines all of his sins.
Given pen and paper he must write and essay and apology. Usually he is forced to rewrite at least part of these until he wife grades them as satisfactory.
Providing him with a jar of water and a few slices of bread his wife chains him to the bed. He is locked in place to insure he has no other food.

When his wife frees him in the morning the slate is wiped clean and his failings forgiven.

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

7.07 Diary

Out from work 6:30
Yawning all the way home, arrived 7:15
Fed the critters.
Surprised to find Her in 'my' bed.
She explained that the son that had being staying with us, had fallen asleep in the other bed, with Stitch, so this bed was the only one left.
But She was sleeping without Her CPAP so I went and fetched it.
And I undressed, and got in bed next to Her, for a minute or two.
Sleep was coming on fast, so I got up,  and got my BLD (breakfast-lunch-dinner) together, and ate while reading Sunday's paper.
And then off to bed, 0930ish.

Awake and out to pee, around 1330.
Talking for a bit with Her and Sherman..  and back to bed.
Up with Her, and my alarm, 1745.
Toilet, shower, dry...   asked Her to rub Vit-E-cream into my still-sunburned-but-improving back,  then on into my room, where I took some selfies of me in underwear options to fit over the CD.
In car, 1845.
At work 19:30.
The company was doing a twenty car event, a publicity party for this season's premiere of "The Bridge".
So, lots of cars n drivers out, but not much else shaking.

Until.... a chauffeur called in...at the event site, waiting for the clients... he engaged the parking brake on the SUV he was driving, and could not get it to release.   I began by finding another car/driver to get to his location to pick up his clients, should they come out and be ready to go,  then I called the regular driver of that vehicle, and told him to call this driver, and try to figure out the problem.
Which...he did, a few minutes later,  and called me and said, he got the brake released.

THEN....  we had another ride for some client that was marked by the boss:  must go perfect,  we've had past problems on this account, might lose it,  etc....
All was going well, until the driver had a flat tire on the vehicle,  two mile before the drop off.
I found another car n driver, got him to the location in less than 15 minutes, who took the passengers on home, and called a tow truck to get to the original driver...  who changed the tire for him, after judging that the space saver tire in the trunk was good enough to get back to our base, on.

Enough with the excitement, already.

HsLS  45
HsLO  215
HsLD  46
H L/up  32
Her DO   no


from  One Possible Set of Enforced Male Chastity Regulations
He agrees to use any sexual aids..not limited to ... strap-on, vibrator, dildo, or other artificial aids to satisfy Her. 
    εñδ

from Corporal Punishment Implements: The Ruler
 Overall, rulers seem to be a good tool for lighter forms of discipline, both at home and at schools.  If CP were to return to European countries, I'd hope to see it in use there.

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
...This is, of course, a potentially serious setback for your spanking relationship-unless you deal with it quickly and responsibly.
If you are an experienced spanking couple in an established relationship, you may have developed specific ways that your partner can respond if you resist a spanking, including agreeing that s/he has the right to force you down, and back into, position for the spanking.  .....................


Monday, July 7, 2014

7.06 Diary (numbers added, late July 7)

She wanted to 'play', and I said, "Okay, lemme go to the toilet, first."
I went... and was a bit constipated. Oh well.
I returned to the yard area,  and we moved the available spanking bench into better light.
She suggested I go pick out implements of choice.
Instead, I brought out the whole toy bag, laid it across a couple chairs, provided Her with a flashlight...
I was wearing an a-shirt, shorts, socks, shoes, and a kind of harness, that held up my jewels and only had leg bands behind it...I took off the shorts and shoes, and knelt on the bench.
She started with a bamboo rod, which we bought a bundle of at the 99c store....
About 20 whacks with that across my buttocks and on my sit spot, then a few that hit way too high, and the stick splintered.
She switched to the pizza board paddle,  and some twenty hard smacks with that.
The pizza board paddle is about this size...
And then She switched to ...cane? spoon? I'm not sure which,
 but She stopped when something popped and started bleeding.  She sanitized the area, and applied a band aid.
Then She put a latex glove on one hand, and started inspecting in between my cheeks.
I guessed what She was ....considering...
And while I really really wanted (and want) to put a dildo in my ass, strap it on, and fuck the hell out of me, I felt I had to tell Her, "Not a good idea, you'd be hitting gold quickly."
"Looks like you're right," She said.  "You want some more?"
"No, I'm good," I said.
"Go ahead and pack up," She said, "I'm gonna get ready for a D.O."
Subtle hint.
I packed up the toy bag, took it back to the tent...gave Her a few minutes, then entered the tent.
She was laying flat on Her back, topless.
I got nearly on top of Her, touching Her breasts and She started moaning.
She pushed me away and down, and I pulled down and off, Her tighty pinkies, and began gently licking the top of Her slit,and around it, and down into it, as She moaned, louder.
She moaned "P...lease..." and pulled me up to Her.
My penis was showing no signs of interest.  I tried to wake it up, by manipulating the head in and around the wetness between Her legs, but nothin' doing.
She told me to get the vibrator and put a condom on it...which I did....and insert it between Her legs....and in the meantime, fondle Her breasts, while using my tongue on Her clit.
I did...and She moaned....again and again and again...  until She whispered, "Take it out, take it out."
I did, and She leaned back, then rolled onto Her right side.
I crawled up, and laid down beside Her, and She was asleep in a minute.
I went outside, to hang out by the fire, a bit more, then went back into the tent, lay down by Her again, and went to sleep, around 0230.
Up for P&S, 0400 or so.
Awake 0830, and noticed She was already gone.
It was getting quite warm in the tent, so I was up to stay not much later.
I went outside, got some coffee from the mess area, and went to sit down beside Her.
She said, 'If I don't talk about this now, I won't.... so..."
"Go ahead..."
"I want you to stop masturbating."
"Ummm..."
'I think it effects your performance with me. The last two times you've been unable to get it up for me, and I think it has to do with masturbation."
"Well, I do have other reasons... like I do have a problem getting aroused directly after a BDSM scene, and other times, if I'm thinking that I should be sleeping for work, I can't get my conscious brain to shut off and let my libido brain engage."
"I understand that.  But, I do want you to stop masturbating."
"Well, I have that untried chastity device... that would help."
"And that's a treat for good behaviour, and you're close, you're very close."
"Ummm.... erggh....okay."     Add this one to my gripe list.
The campsite owner was cooking breakfast, and we partook of some share of pancake, scrambled eggs, bacon, sausage.
We had a nice chat with another fem domme, by the name of Pears or somesuch,  which I initiated because I wanted to confirm I had seen her at a LICK party.
Then we decided to start taking down the tent, and packing up.
She was sitting in a chair, across the way from our tent.
I walked down the hill, to the street where the car was parked.
And She sent me a text:  "Please bring me a cold drink."
I wrote back:  "Sure, since I'm sitting around doing nothing.  And by the way, I'm in the car, getting ready to drive it up the hill."    Another for the gripe list.
First we took off the rain cover, and She took it away, to try to fold and compress it properly.  I started pulling the contents out of the tent, before taking it down, which meant, putting away whatever I could first, like the sleeping bag into the case, the comforter into its case etc, then setting it all outside the tent, and getting the susceptible items out of the direct sunlight.
Then I started the actual take down,and She assisted.
We had all the poles out, and folded up, and in the storage bag, leaving us with a flattened tent, still staked, and I believed it would be easier to fold up, by leaving the stakes in.
She got yelled at, from across the way.
Sign language from this other woman, MJ who was over there, told Her, and She told me, "It's time for my flogging," and She walked off.
To Her credit, She asked MJ to send somebody to come over and help me.
In a few minutes, a couple guys came along: 'Hey man like... you need some help."
"Nope."
I continued, rolling up the tent, and packing it, by myself.
Then I carried the bags to the car, two at a time,  some hundred paces each way.
Doesn't sound like much, other than ...it was hotter than all bugfuck.
And I was getting more peeved and annoyed with each step.   Other one for the gripe list.
I was DONE, and sitting, catching my breath, when She came out of the dungeon, a slightly satisfied look on Her face.
She looked at my face: "What's wrong?"
"Loading everything in the fucking car all by my fucking self...."
"Sorry..... how can I make it up to you?"
"Blow me," I mumbled.
"What's that?"
"I didn't say anything.  It's my fucking job to load the fucking car. It's just too fucking hot."
"Wanna go inside, it's cooler."
We went inside the dungeon area.
And watched...  a  very naked Pears, her hands rope-tied in front of her,  was bending over a spanking bench, and a fellow who goes by the nickname "House" because he is as big as one, was giving her bare bottom all kinds of painful attention.
Merry rubbed my crotch through my thin shorts and asked if this aroused me.
No,  watching a woman getting beaten like this does not arouse me, but it certainly appeals to my sadistic self.
I get aroused when I'm able to visualize that it's MY ass getting beaten.

House finished with her, and grabbed her by the hair and took her outside.
When she came back in a few minutes later, with wet hair, and a towel draped around her, I surmised that House had tossed her into the wading pool.
Merry went to the toilet.
I went to find House and remind him of the birthday spanking that Merry had asked him for, the previous day.
He grinned and said, "Soon as I finish this cigarette, I'll be along."
I went back to where She was, and told Her that House would be along.
She did not seem all that happy, but She did ask for it.
As House headed our way, She asked me for a snack bag of chips.
House said, "Come in when you're ready..."
And I stood and watched Her slowly eating chips.
I figured, "By the time She's finished, House will be involved with someone else, and ... then we're outta here."
She finished; we went inside, House was waiting.
They did some pre-negotiations.... hand or paddle?  Warm up?  Etc.
They went to a spanking bench, I followed video camera in hand. I asked him if it was okay if I videoed the action in tight close up, and he said, "Sure."
She bent over, pulled up Her skirt, and took down the tighty pinkies.  He warmed up Her buttocks a little, then delivered  a number of spanks equal to what Her years of age will be, in a week,  while She counted 'em.
He was done, and walked away, I continued filming, as She stood up, and turned around, and said, "Those weren't squeals of pain...well, some were, but also of orgasm."
Then we were ready to go, I guess, and got in my car, and headed for ... a gas station, where I filled up,  and then we headed home... and I started a discussion relating to masturbation and chastity, offering the following points:
 1. You don't want me to masturbate
  2. Using a chastity device would be a simple way to prevent it.
  3.  I like wearing the CD, so I would not think of it as punishment.
  4.  It's a silicon device,  so it can be removed and we can 'play' immediately; no  problematic metal allergy issues.
 5. Just because it's ON does not mean it can't come OFF,  just whenever.  And back ON again.
6.  I could just put the damn thing on, even without Her express permission.  It's not like we are currently living a real D/s or M/s or FLR dynamic.

And, She agreed. She even said, She was going to go for it, before I said all this.  That I should plan to put it on, before going to work, this evening.

So..HOME.  And unloaded the car, with a lot of help from Stitch, for which I am grateful.
And putting things away. I've got major OCD about that.
When She brings home a suitcase from a trip. She takes weeks to unpack it.
But it's the first thing I do, just about.
Even when I'm running late for work, although I did let 'em know ahead of time.
I didn't have much in the way of clothes in the one bag, so that was easy.
And I unpacked the whole of the toy bag.....
I spent awhile cleaning, loading, and re cleaning my e-cigarette....
THEN I showered, and dried, and put on socks, only, and went into my room, and put on this silicon device, and finished dressing, and went out to the living room, poured iced tea to take with me, and packed up, and kissed Her goodbye.
She squeezed my crotch...to see if I was wearing something.   I pulled down my tights to show Her, and She scrutinized the number on the lock.  HA!
Will She remember the six digit number?    No.
Does it matter, am I at all likely to remove the lock, remove the CD, in order to do...something...  while I'm at work?   Um, no, no.
She asked if it's comfortable.
"I've had it on for ten minutes...."

No pictures were taken then, but I did take a couple selfies at work.


In car 16.15
Cruising along.
Text comes from the Boss. "How long to the office, Sam is getting antsy."
Crap.   "On the 101 now, won't be long."
At the office 1700.
I usually do set up, but getting in so late, my partner (by which I mean, my co-worker who is there every evening that I work) had already started set up, and I told her to just run with it, while I dealt with the night work.

HslS  21
HsLO  191
HsLD  22
Hr UN  1347
Hr L    8
Her DO  yes


from  One Possible Set of Enforced Male Chastity Regulations
 He agrees that he MUST ask permission to ejaculate.

from Corporal Punishment Implements: The Ruler
The ruler also has been used by mothers and fathers on their unruly offspring.  And while it has seen use on the hands in families, its main area of usage here was ...is... the bottom.  A thorough dose of the rule can be quite painful, though it would never be as effective as a slipper or spoon.  A ruler is lightweight, so it does not bruise, it only stings.  The only thing that can happen is that the sides of the ruler bite into the skin, which will leave nasty marks.  

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
 As distressing as this spanking may have been to you, your resistance is probably even more upsetting to your partner.  S/he may feel like the "bad guy" who crossed a line, lost control, and hurt you without your consent...................

I wanna be spanked by a woman, dressed like this

7.05 Diary

This would be the 'official' anniversary of the day that She really really wants to forget....

0100, up for P&S.
05:30  again, P&S
0800 or so, up and moving.
Coffee, snack, pills... and packing...
Clothers...toiletries...toys...  CPAP....  get it into my car...
Showered and dressed, as did She.
And loaded the car again....
We were in the car around 1415....
Arrived in Rsmd  oh 1440, decided we had time to go to walmar before...and we got in our dinner shopping.
Then went on to the camp out scene at the BoD, arriving 1515 or so, and were about the first ones there.
She showed me our pre-reserved spot, and I began unloading, and She assisted in setting up the tent, then we moved our gear inside.
Relieved that it was all done...I tried to take a nap...and got up.
Around 18:00, called my parents, my weekly phone call.
Tried for another nap.....
The grill was on, the owner was manning it, so we started our own dinner.
We warmed up pre-cooked fajita meat, and put it on tortillas,  and I had a couple bacon wrapped hot dogs provided by the owner to go with 'em.
Then,  took another nap.         through and past midnight.

HsLS  104
HsLO 167
HsLD  103
H un  1331
Her DO   NO

from  One Possible Set of Enforced Male Chastity Regulations
He agrees, that she may release him for sexual play, but no orgasm is allowed unless she specifically permits it.

from Corporal Punishment Implements: The Ruler
It is interesting that there seem to be a few different traditions of ruler-on-the-hands discipline. Most people interviewed got it on their palms.  But there were those who remembered getting over the back of their hands or even on their knuckles and fingers.
In traditional school punishment, mostly wooden rulers were used. Plastic rulers produce a quite different, more intense sting, as they are more flexible.  However, they tend to break easily, which makes them ill-suited for more than light discipline.

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
This is not an ideal situation, but it does happen and it happens often, especially at the beginning of someone's spanking life.
If you aren't able to take the entire spanking, you will need to do some damage control to avoid doing harm to the bond of trust between you and your partner. ...............................

I wanna be spanked by a woman dressed somethin' like this.





7.04 Diary

Up 0945.
Coffee, toast,pills... almost knocked out by the Chantix, again.
We were having problems with the toilet properly flushing and resetting,
So I gathered the other four in the bathroom, and showed them.."Flush like this...and return the handle like this."
Up, and cleared the living room floor, thinking I'd do a test run with setting up the tent (that we acquired for tomorrow's Camp Out) there.
And decided, it was gonna be too big, and took it out to the front yard.
Managed to muddle through setting it up, finished just in time.
I went inside, and went to the toilet.
And She immediately followed me.
It doesn't matter if I go to the toilet once a day, or ten times, She follows me in.  It's high on my gripe list.
I got up and in the shower.
"If you don't want to go, we'll stay home," She shouted.
"Fine by me," I shouted back.
I finished, and got out. She was standing, naked, and wordlessly got in the shower.
I finished in the bathroom, went out to the living room to finish dressing.
She came out...dressed, asked if I changed my mind..."Let's go."
We went to Ihop.  By arrangement, She went in, and I waited three minutes before following.
I went in, and joined her and  this other guy at the table.
He said, "This is too weird," and got up and departed.
We sat with coffee and Sprite, and a hot fudge sunday,  and finished, and we left.
We stopped at the 99.99cent store on the way home, and bought just less than 99 items, and went home.
I unpacked the bags....   took down the tent....   went through the garage, looking for bags we might need, and did some preliminary packing...
I was in the kitchen, She was in the pool. I went to ask Her something about a leftover dish in the fridge, and went back in. I was standing at the sink, with the water running, She yelled something, so I went back to the door to have Her repeat it.  Then I returned to the sink, and She said something else.
I went to the door, and yelled, "STOP IT. STOP TALKING TO ME WHEN I'M NOT IN THE SAME ROOM. JUST STOP IT."
I finished there, and went back out front to continue stabilizing the fence.
Which was enough to get a nice sunburn on my shoulders.
I went in, got the Vit E cream and asked Her to rub it into my skin.
Then I set up a few items on chargers, and sorted out some CDs and DVDS for potential taking along.
Then on my chair, on my laptop...  Input my blog for 7/2 and 3, and got this far on 7/4.  .<18:30 7/4>
Got online, chatting on Spanko, etc....
Read from The Science of Mind..
Dinner was  served...

Then, in the bedroom, and out like a light,  around 2200

HsLS 90
Hslo 143
HsLD  79
Hr UN 1307
Her DO   No

from  One Possible Set of Enforced Male Chastity Regulations
 He agrees, sexual release may be accompanied by the use of restraints. 

from Corporal Punishment Implements: The Ruler
I have talked to a lot of people from a variety of mostly European countries, and many of them have experienced something along these lines.  The ruler, it seems, was a common implement for quick classroom punishments, mainly used on the miscreant's hands.
Applied there,the ruler does sting. Not like a hard caning does, but enough to get a point across.  Also, the procedure of receiving one's punishment directly in front of your classmates adds to its effectiveness.

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
Before you even realize what you're doing, you're standing up, putting your hands over your bottom and telling your partner to stop -- maybe in a voice that is far from the submissive spankee you envisioned yourself being in your fantasies.......................................

Friday, July 4, 2014

7.03 Diary

Up 0130 for P&S, and back in bed, got hung up watching Red2 until 03:30
Woken up 6:50 by Stitch, as I was the designated driver.
Got up.  and half dressed, and took him to work, and returned home by 7:48.
She was gone, went to pick up 4thSon  that She was taking to Kiser,  I did the dishes, fed the critters, worked on notebooks...
She arrived home with 4thSon  and we had coffee, and I worked on the laptop...
Then I went outside an worked on stabilizing the fence, and fixing the latch, and trimming back the thorny bushes that were hanging over the sidewalk.
And went in, from the heat...and sat down with my eyes closed awhile...
Had a snack, took a nap... up, when She called, from my office, picking up my check... and another snack
I started cleaning the coolers we were taking to the Camp Out, and worked on the fence... then it was time to shower and dress.
Sherman arrived home in his car, Stitch arrived on his bike, then She arrived home with 4thSon.
Sherman and She got in my car, and we headed for the OC.
Drove 25 miles in rush hour, get outta town traffic....and were there for ...thirty? minutes...
Then returned home in the same traffic.
I sat down to chill, and  little-s took Sherman to go to a Sandwich Shop for ... well, sandwiches.
They returned, and dinner was served.
Then littles decided she had to go to a pharmacy right then and there, to get Benadryl for our dog that goes fucking nuts every time a firecracker pops, and she took Sherman..and returned.
In the meanwhile, I gave my little Cookie a bath.
And went in my room, with the intention of doing everything I could think to try to fix the speakers attached to my stereo....
And after untangling one set of wires, they roared to life.
I was nodded off...after getting up on limited sleep to take Stitch to work...
And went to bed around 2130.

HsLS 56
HsLO 119
HsLD 55
H UN 1238
Her DO? NO
from  One Possible Set of Enforced Male Chastity Regulations
He agrees to immediately and enthusiastically satisfy her by any and all means she requests.

from Corporal Punishment Implements: The Ruler
"Stefanie, stand up and hold out your hand."
That short sentence, uttered in French, is part of my own small experience with school CP.  It would be followed by a near total silence in the classroom, my answer "Yes Miss" in a low voice.  And then a number of smacks, wood on a girl's palm, and a few gasps after the strokes. "Sit down, and let that be a lesson for you." 

from How to Get the Spanking You Want
So, you're in the middle of getting spanked, and it hurts a lot more than you expected.  YOu want to be good and take the spanking you've got coming to you, but the pain is unbearable and you just can't stand it a moment longer ......................................................