from Sarah J's blog

So where were we?

Oh yes... the wonderful world of corporal punishment (or, as I prefer it and as my friend Nookie puts it, "funishment". I'm not into trying to enforce discipline and behavioural changes at the end of a riding crop).

The most important thing, and probably the biggest difference between the "pun" and the "fun" is the warmup.

I do know people who cane from "cold" but not only is that very painful, right from the first stroke, but it bruises like hell. The idea is first to get the blood and the endorphins flowing with some light hand-slapping and spanking before gradually going up the scale until you get to the implement of choice.

And of them all, the cane is, at least so I have found, the Big Daddy of them all (I have to admit to a certain amount of my own pleasure in the swish-smack of the cane on John's utterly gorgeous arse (clue: he's lean and his buns are tight. This of course means the warmup is even more important because there's not a lot of padding there!).

I'm still working on the "limits" because when he says "stop", I tend to... even though that's when you're really supposed to start the real stuff.

But we'll get there I'm sure.

In His Chastity,

Sarah

P.S. We did try it the other way, but it's not for me. Not only did John feel very uncomfortable doing it to me, but it's not my thing at all. I can't see the point in getting used to something that hurts... just so you can bear it.

But we're all different... which is a good thing, because I couldn't bear orgasm denial, either!

July 15 from Sarah J.

This is from Sarah Jameson, or rather, an email SHE received and is passing on to readers:

"I understand your concerns about the blurring of consent, and I'm pleased you understand that 'in the moment' you may want to withdraw it. 

All I can say is you must understand you have already given your consent and handed over all control to me.

This means that your 'in the moment consent' or lack of it does not actually exist and I will administer your punishment as I see fit whether it be caning or any other method of discipline.  

When I cane you for disobedience it will be very painful and you will not want me to continue, BUT for you to learn the lesson and grow as a slave I will continue until I decide you have been punished sufficiently - if I did not do this you will have retained control and choice.

I will expect you to accept it and be grateful that I care enough about your wellbeing to administer the punishment." ~ Mistress T.

 Awesome!

from Sarah Jameson

The subtitle of Slave to Her Whim is "a guide to finding your passion and freedom in Total Pwer Exchange".

I sometimes wonder if the men who tell me they crave slavery, to be literally "owned", so far as this is possible in a modern society, really understand what this means.

Most of them seem to think it means just doing the things they imagine they'd want to do in the presence of a Domme (and much of that is focused on sex, as you can imagine).

But TPE goes way beyond that.

Ultimately it means serving your Beloved without regard to self, and I mean trulywithout regard to self.

How?

Ah, therein lies the secret.

How indeed.

And if you really want to know the "how to", then Slave to Her Whim is the book you've been waiting for.

It's 165 pages of powerful information aimed at ensuring your Beloved gets the most of owning you.

And you may download your exclusive copy of Slave to Her Whim from the link below... if you DARE:

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Remember: the first 137 lucky guys to own Slave to Her Whim will also get an unabridged audio recording of Slave to Her Whim from Nookie.

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And remember: your investment in Slave to Her Whim is covered by my unconditional lifetime 100% money-back guarantee. No one else gives a guarantee like this... and doesn't take a genius to figure out why (clue: if they won't guarantee their work for a lifetime, what does it say about the life they promise?)

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In His Chastity,

Sarah xxx

P.S. Here's what's in your Slave to her Whim package:

1. The full Slave to Her Whim manual (PDF)
2. The “Intimate Boundaries Worksheet” (Excel spreadsheet)
3. The “Kink Worksheet”, your essential Guide to negotiating hard and soft limits before you submit to your enslavement. (Excel spreadsheet)
4. Plus a special free preview of How to Find a FemDom, powerful tips for submissives interacting and negotiating with potential Dommes, both online and offline

from Sarah Jameson

Another email from Sarah Jameson: 

"I hope you've been good... because if you haven't, then you'll suffer the consequences.

And who knows what they might be?

Well... She does. Your Mistress.

Those are the kinds of things you need to be aware of before you submit and become Slave to Her Whim.

Because once she has a taste of being in control... she's not likely to want to give it up.

Sure, no one can force you to obey.

But you love the game... and if you don't play it her way, then she won't play it with you at all.

And in Slave to Her Whim you're going to discover the nitty-gritty detail of what it means to truly serve a dominant woman.

It's definitely not going to be for everyone... but if you're serious about your deep commitment to a life of servitude, then Slave to Her Whim is the ultimate slave training how-to manual.

And you can own it tomorrow, at 5pm sharp, UK time.

In His Chastity,

Sarah xxx

P.S. Remember, tomorrow at 5pm you'll be able to get your hands on the full Slave to Her Whim package — that's the book, the Kink Worksheet (in case you didn't get it with She's in Control) and the brand-new Intimate Boundaries Worksheet.

Best of all, if you're one of the first 137 to grab a copy of Slave to Her Whim, you'll also qualify for a bonus audio recording of Nookie reading Slave to Her Whim aloud for you."

From Sarah Jameson

I'm on a mailing list from Sarah Jameson, from the "male chastity blog"  

For a while, I was getting notes daily from her, which I posted on  "Desires...."

This is the first note, in some weeks. And seems interesting, considering my current status and position.

"I know... I've been quiet for a while.

But that's not to say I've been idle. Nope... I've been helping Himself with a humongous heap of projects for his clients and collaborating with Nookie, she of She's In Control fame on another guide for you, Slave to Her Whim.

If you've ever wanted to know what it's like to be a slave and the A to Z "How To" of servitude then Slave to Her Whim is going to turn your world upside down.

You'll be able to get your hands on it from Thursday and you'll not want to hang around, because there will be a strictly limited number available at the special launch. As always you'll have my unconditional lifetime money-back guarantee to ensure your -- and Her -- complete satisfaction.

So watch this space ;-)

In His Chastity,

Sarah xxx

P.S. I've been a very bad girl recently. Very, very bad. But John loved every minute of it. So I just might be tempted to do it again.

We'll see ;-)  "