1.31 Saturday Diary

Up 0900ish.
Got my stuff together, went out front, and began mowing/whipping the front yard, and the grassy area outside the fence, next to the sidewalk, on both sides of the house, using two whips, the cordless one, and the corded one...while Stitch, and eventually Babyman, came out to do the raking and clean up.

DONE, inside, 1300 ish...
Collapsed in my chair...
Feeling severe muscle fatigue, I went to the bedroom for a two hour nap.

UP...and we started talking about the wifi situation in the household, and that Tallship's devices seem to be soaking up the wifi to the detriment of someone who actually pays rent in the house, so I changed the password on the wifi...and relayed that password to Coco, and Merry composed a note for Tallship, since we were leaving soon, and didn't think we would see him.

We showered together and dressed, and I packed a dungeon bag...
Tallship did enter the house before we departed, but sat down in a chair, and studied his phone like he always does and seemed oblivious.... and Merry and I departed, enroute to our first dungeon party since...   I'm not sure when, possibly October. 
First we picked up HiLordBubba from his place, some 10 miles south east of us.
Then we were off to the BoD.
It was a five dollar party....Merry and I had... twelve dollars cash between us. When we arrived, HLB realized he had left his wallet at home, and could we pay his entry? 
We left him there, and drove off 1/2 mile to the 7-11 to access a rediteller, and returned, and paid our three ways' in, and entered.
It was a nearly full house. 
We sat, we talked, we walked around...
I was not feeling up to playing, myself.
A fellow walked up to Merry ...out of nowhere ..and asked about playing, and Merry took him up on it, and found a suitable place, while I monitored, as Merry likes to have a monitor, a job usually done by Stitch, when he is with us.
She beat on him... lightly..for a bit, then finished up with a hug.
We returned to talk to HLB...
............................  (past midnight, continues next....)

D sl S  45
D sl O or D  73
D un 69
D sl C 68
Days of her illness  13 
HER DO  no 

1.31 Thought for the Day OUR story, almost

Femdom Funishment by Femdomous

It is Friday night, the weekend's prelude. Tonight and for the next two days Tammy is going to give Dennis many spankings, whippings and other punishment.

Janice Jupiter (?)

Not that Dennis goes unpunished Monday through Thursday. Tammy gives him maintenance spankings those days. What is she maintaining? The fun. Spanking Dennis is her pleasure. Being spanked is Dennis' delight.

They do not really think of all this as punishment. To swipe an excellent term, it is funishment.

They met through an online personal. Tammy's last regular spanking partner moved away. She was looking for a new guy on whom she would exercise her playfully sadistic streak.

Most of the ads and profiles were from losers, wannabes and freaks. Too many of the guys seemed always to be apologizing for being male. As a heterosexual woman, Tammy liked men. She wanted them to like being men.

Dennis wrote to her. He enjoyed being spanked, whipped and otherwise hurt by a competent, good-natured female sadist. He wrote that he was a masochist and felt no shame in this.

Dennis did not say that he deserved to be punished. Tammy did not think any women would want a man who did. Likeable, guys who know how to control themselves is what a girl wants.

Uncomplicated and direct, Dennis' messages gave Tammy great hope.

Meeting for coffee there were no rough patches. Just the inevitable slight nervousness between two strangers. They made a spanking date. It went well. Dennis' enthusiastic masochism was a perfect match for Tammy sadism.

Within a few months, they were living together. A couple of years later they married.

This very simple tale may strike you as implausible dear reader. It is not. Not that everybody gets married. That is a declining institution. But clear thinking, honest submissive guys and dominant women do manage to establish long term relationships.

(A special thanks to Shiloh.)

1.30 Friday Diary

0900  Up...fed the animals...started laundry...
 Took meds...
  Which did something terrible to my stomach..and went back to bed...
 Awake around 1400...watching tv.
Dressed...
We both went to Vons for stuff for dinner..
 And home and unpacked...
 She sat at her computer, I sat in my easy chair...

Had dinner.
Went to bed...

D s l S  44
D s l (O or D) 72
D UN  68
D sl C  67
Her DO no
D, Her being sick  12 

1.30 Thought for the day: spanked by Mistress Nurse

Spanked by Mistress Nurse

Spanking Nurse

For folks who have fantasies of stern disciplinary nurses.

1.29 Thursday Diary

0900 Up, long enough to let Donna out, and feed her, and back to bed.
1100 Up....no hot water, went into the back, saw that the pilot light on the water heater was out, and relit it.
She was going to go out with me, but wanted a shower first, and was waiting for hot water.
I got dressed, and drove a couple miles away for a blood draw that my GI doc wanted, and returned.
Still no hot water, so with her help I compiled a list and
Went to FfL for groceries...
W-M for her prescription
HD for yet another string-edger (whip)..
And returned home.
PUt away groceries...
Went into the bedroom...
Watched a couple eps of Suits...
Then dinner..
STILL no hot water, so I went to look at the water heater, and realized when I relit the pilot, I forgot to turn the gas to ON...
Watched Shameless and Justified.
She finally was able to get into the shower, but was having trouble with standing so I helped her...
Went back and watched CM...

and sleep  0230 or so.

D sl S  43
D sl O/D  71
D  Un  67
D NO cig  66
Her DO  no
D HER being ill  11

1.29 Thought for the Day They Humiliate and Spank Men for Money

They Humiliated & Spank Men for Money by Femdomous

Some people think Marci and Karen are lovers. They just share a house. Given their increasing disgust with men, they may yet fall into one another's arms.

Juan Puyal

The events narrated here began when blond Karen needed to use her then boyfriend's laptop to check her Facebook account. The careless schmuck was still logged into his secret Facebook account. That account focused on his psychosexual infantilism fetish, i.e., he wanted to wear diapers and be humiliated by mommy.

When confronted by Karen the guy asked her to spank him. That put an end to their dating.

It was a later boyfriend that changed her life. He was just a plain masochist. Karen discovered this in the third month of their relationship when he asked her to tie him up and whip him.

As she arose ready to get away from the freak, he offered to pay her to punish him. The amount he offered stopped her. She did not make that much in a week. So she did it. She put all her angry disappointment into his spanking. He was so happy that he added a tip.

For the next few months, she spanked him every Friday night. Karen could not decide if she were more disgusted with him or herself.

Marci had been her best friend since they were both ten. Only to Marci would she dare confess that she was spanking a man for money.

After two lousy, selfish husbands one of whom beat her Marci felt she was through with men. Guys were not trustworthy. Men would only hurt, cheat and take advantage of you.

Karen was startled when Marci's response to her story was pleased laughter. And envy. Marci said that she would much rather beat a man than date one. She convinced Karen to consider herself lucky.

Guilt she said was just stupid. The guy she was spanking got what he wanted. Marci was able to live a better life. Just take the money and relax. Karen should find more weak men. They both should. Marci and Karen became a team.

Thanks to Craigslist and other websites, finding guys who would pay for spankings was easy. The women learned much about fetishes that they had never suspected. Forced feminization became one of their specialties. Having a guy put on a dress, makeup and a wig was easy. When they laughed at him, the client was thrilled.

They would force rich men to clean up their apartments. The guy would be dressed in a maid's uniform. Karen or Marci would follow and beat him as he scrubbed the floor.

Humiliating and discipline men have proven profitable. Sometimes even fun.

1.28 Wednesday Diary

Off work  8:49, headed home.
In my home area, ran around to places looking for a loaf a bread and a half gallon of milk. No major supermarkets close to home, so this was a bit of a drag. 
Found some, arrived home...
Fed animals, sorted papers, and found the Rx I needed for a blood draw. 
Clipped some newspapers, put away laundry, prepped a notebook...
and went to bed, 1230.
Up and awake 1830...
Started watching tv...
Including the last 2/3 of "the Avengers"..
Dinner...  
Watched a couple repeats of TBBT...
Napped..
And awake again, to watch the last half of "the Shawshank Redemption."
And 'bed'  0230.

D s l S  42
D s l O  70
D s l D  70
D UN 66
Day NO cig  65
Her DO  NO

1.27 Tuesday Diary

Off work, in (her) car, 0642.
Home  7:45.   
Readout shows, 10 mile remaining on the gas.
Inside, fed all the animals....
Sat at her computer, trying to download some of our video clips onto the flash drive I have.  
Turns out, the flash drive I have 'only' holds 4 GB, so I couldn't pull very many of them.
Then breakfast (a can of chili over the remaining rice in the pan on the stove)...then into bed, next to her as she still slept. .... 0930 ish.

Alarm off 1730...one snooze or so later, up...  
Showered and dressed and said 'Good bye'
IN car 1845... stopped gas, $13 worth I had on a credit car...
At work  1935. 

EZ night...

Days s l Sex  41
Days s l O  69
D s l D/S/F 69
D UN  65
D s l Ci  64

1.28 Thought for the Day Spanked by His Sisters

Spanked By His Sisters

In a truly and totally female led family all male submit to the females in the household.

The dominant sisters may decided to feminize and sissify him to keep him docile and humble.

Brothers find themselves dominated by their Mistress Sisters. His sisters may at anytime spank and punish him for his failings or merely for their own pleasure.

1.26 Monday Diary

Off work, in car 611.
Home...
Feed ALL the critters.
Fixed my daily meal...
  (reheated rice with bacon bits, and brought home from work a muffin and cream-filled donut...) and read the newpaper.
Bed 0740... She was still asleep.

Kinda awake 1600...She was up and out of the bed.
Laid around half awake, until getting up 1800.
Went out to the toilet; of course, it was occupied.  
Anyway, used the toilet several times, while getting dressed.
Said "good bye"..
In car 1840.
Fucked up traffic on the 5....
Got off at SMB at 1940.
Turned onto NB Hyland into more fucked up traffic.
Finally at work 20:03.

Dead as all get out at work...due to the weather in NY, effecting our business.

Day s l Sex  40
D s l O  68
D s l F/D/S 68
D un 65
Her do NO
D s l CI 63

1.26 Thought for the Day Punishment or Pleasure?

Punishment or Pleasure?

I can’t imagine pain being used to make me a better person. I like getting whacked for the sheer pleasure of it.

Spankings: punishment / behavior modification or just for fun?

1.25 Sunday Diary

Midnight...contacts out.

Asleep 0630, maybe...awake 10:00 or so

Gathered up some trash and newspapers in the bedroom, and my laundry....  
 And ..story of my life...whether it's the bathroom or the washing machine...somebody was using the the washing machine ahead of me...
Read the paper...
Half asleep...  but She had just started watching "The Butler" and I became interested in it...
Up and moving 1315,  showered and dressed, and put in NEW contacts...   
Said 'good bye' to Her
Got in Her car  ..1515...
Snafu traffic on the 5...
At work 1615.

I had ..previously ...heard we expected like 90 rides for the SAG awards... plus our other Sunday business...we wound up with ..like 30...   and  105 rides for the whole day...
And about 90 for the next day, for which I was doing set up.

Days s last Sex  39
Days s last O   67
Days s last S/D/F  67
Days UN  65
Her DO  No
Days s l CIG  65

1.24 Saturday Diary

Sleeping on and off til 4 pm
 While watching whatever on  TV
Dinner around 22:00, a couple of Coco's hotpockets...
Watched Constantine with her.
Tried to sleep...   

At 03:00 Woke up enough to watch

Transporter while trying to update my blogs from my phone...

Asleep 0600 more or less.

1.23 Diary Friday

0400  Up for P & S
0900  up more or less
Watched AHS, CriminalMinds, Constantine, Shameless, Gotham, Django Unchained , Elementary
For dinner, she made meatloaf.
Sunshine got involved, and got into a 'thing' with Tallship, and I got involved, going so far as telling Tallship that if there is any other kind of problem with him and ...the family, I would disconnect the house wi fi, then his desktop, then let the air out of the tires of his car...

Back in the bed room, 
I watched Transporter, and Archer ...
And NewsRoom season 1, eps 1 and 2, then season 2, ep 9....
And went to sleep, some time or other.

01.22 Thursday Diary

Awake 09:00 , asleep...awake...
Up and moving, oh, Fourish, feeding all, dressed, and in her car since mine was still at the office,  with Stitch to W-M with my prescription and a need for dinner fixins.
Also needed distilled water which was not on the W-M shelf, which necessitated another stop at Ralphs. 
And home home
I had dinner of the pastrami sandwich with which MT had gifted me ,Tuesday at work
And we watched Justified, Scorpion, another Scorpion, SVU 
and asleep 0200

1.26 Thought for the Day Utilization of Time

Utilization Of Time Posted: 30 Dec 2014 06:00 AM PST I recently received an email from a woman who complained that she and her husband could only practice the lifestyle (Female Led Relationship) late at night and before the sun comes up. It dawned on me that there must be others out there who share her dilemma. They think they don't really have enough time to enjoy the lifestyle the way they would like. Well, to that I say, “Utilize what time you have!” If you have children at home, or one (or both) of you work outside the home, it might seem that you just don't have enough time to share the little things that make an FLR truly enjoyable. Then you are not utilizing your time properly. Especially if you engage in a little tease and denial or even chastity. I have written several posts that touch on the subject in one way or another, so to many of you, this might seem like a rehash of old ideas, but I say, if it works, who cares how old the idea is? Anyway, here are a few suggestions to help you get started down the road to more fully enjoying each other using what time you have. Beyond the obvious weekend getaways, there are plenty of things you can do to spice things up using little moments here and there. Take a few minutes to sit down and create a plan. Let's assume (just for argument sake) that your husband works, your kids go to school, and you stay home taking care the house (doing those things you don't trust your hubby to do) or shopping, or whatever you normally do with your day. The first thing you need to do is make a schedule of your families typical day. List (in chronological order) all the normal events that take place. For example, when do you get up? When does your husband rise? What about the kids? When do the kids leave for school, and what time does your hubby leave for work? Include things like what time your husband has available at work (breaks, lunch, etc.) when you could contact him with little or no interruption of his work. Once you have everything listed in order, you are ready to make your plan. If your husband's breaks are at irregular times, he could simply call you (or perhaps text you) so that you can give him instructions. There may be other things you can use as well. Does he take a lunch box or briefcase to work? Something where you could leave a little note for him to find? There will be things that don't run on a regular schedule, such as when the kids go out to play, or do their homework. Maybe hubby doesn't always get home at the same time. Your plan will have to take these things into account. Okay, so what goes into this little plan of yours? Well, much of it will not actually be a part of the plan, but rather a list of things that you can do if and when the opportunity presents itself. Your plan should include things like short teases you can do before he goes to work, during his breaks, during lunch, or any time he might have free to perform little tasks for you. So you need a list of tasks that you might want him to perform when you get the chance. Include anything you can do (in the way of teasing him) when you get five or ten minutes alone. It could just be a “bathroom break” when the two f you can sneak off to the bedroom (or bathroom) while the kids are busy watching television. You should have several little teases that you can do with your hubby that will only take a few minutes. Such as, pull his pants down, get him hard by telling him a fantasy, or simply fondling him. You can even use these little “tease times” to punish or admonish him for some indiscretion or displeasure he has caused you. Maybe he didn't do the dishes properly, or he forgot to call you before he left the office. It really doesn't matter what he did, this is a chance to remind him just who is in charge. By-the-way, don't EVER feel guilty about taking charge or even punishing him. If he enjoys being subservient to you, he will love you all the more for enforcing your rules. Finally, you should include longer tease and denial sessions as often as you can. These may have to wait until the kids are asleep or something, but you should plan to spend at least twenty or thirty minutes (or more) at bedtime teasing him or allowing him to pleasure you. Even if he complains that he is too tired, don't let that stop you. If you do it right, he will get hard and he won't care how tired he is at that point. Friday and Saturday nights are great for long tease and denial sessions. Especially if you can both sleep in in the morning. Anyway, I hope you get the picture from all this. If you both want to feel that you are living the lifestyle more, be creative, use the time you have to tease him more and he will become much more the husband you have always wanted. Don't forget to push his limits a little while you are at it. He will thank you for it and you will have even more fun. Mistress Ivey

1.21 Wed. Diary

Off 09:00
Picked up by a still sick Merry, 09:20
We traveled a couple miles north and she pulled over to have me drive.
I drove to a Dennys, and we went in.
I had a senior breakfast thingee: she had a chicken-on-a-bun sandwich and a Cherry Fanta.
She took five bites of the chicken, no bun, and gave me the rest.
We went on to her doctor appointment, a quarterly check up, scheduled 11:40, and arrived 11:15.
While waiting there, I called to reschedule the 13:00 appointment she also had for that day for another day.
She was finally called into an examining room , and she feinted as she passed through the door from the waiting room to the exam rooms.
I helped her up and into an exam room, and while she was sitting on a table, she vomited up all that she took in at breakfast.
We were taken to another room, so THAT one could be 
cleaned.

Eventually Dr. S came into the room and instead of a quarterly exam, this became more of an emergency visit.
Eventually, he declared, she has a virus, but not influenza.
In leaving, 
We made an appointment for three months hence, and departed.
I drove to our (my) next appointment, which was mine with a GI specialist.
We arrived with enough time to drive around in search of free parking, and procured a spot, directly across the busy five lane street from the building.
Wee made our way across the street, into the building, up to the second floor.
In the waiting room, I filled out paperwork, paid a too-much co- pay, and soon was shown in to an examining room.
In due time, the doctor came in, and I was pleased that he sounded like he knew his shit.
With a prescription for sulcralfate, and a prescription for a blood test, and an upper endoscopy to be scheduled, we left.
I drove home while she slept in the seat next to me.
I put her in the bedroom, got Stitch into the car with me, and we went to a supermarket, and returned.
I was in bed 17:45.

Awake around 18:45 for something to eat, then back to bed
She woke TENish, and started watched AHS, for three and a half hours....
She went back to sleep, leaving me awake,and I started watching Die Hard, about fifteen minutes into it.
And went back to sleep 03:30.

1.25 Thought for the day : the submissive male

1.24 Thought for the day an effortless method of asserting dominance

1.24 Right on time

"OH Good, you're right on time."

1.23 Thought for the day: The key to a happy marriage

1.23 Face down prone, strapping

face down prone

1.22 a hallway strapping

a hallway strapping

1.22 Thought for the day

1.20 Tuesday

OUT from work, 608.
Home  6:44.

Fed the animals.
Heated up the leftovers from the previous night that Merry saved for me.
In bed, next to Her  730 or so.

Still suffering from flu symptoms, She spent most of the day in bed with me, 'though She did get up at some point for some time.

She came back into the bedroom around 1745, when I was getting up, and She went back to bed.
I hit the toilet, showered, dressed, prepped for work. 
Said 'Goodbye'.
In car 1835...
Okay traffic  710 and 5, but horrible on the 101.
Finally at work,  1950.

EZ night.

Day sl S  35
D sl O 62
D sl D  62
D UN 60

Her DO No
D sl Ci  57





Good golly, I miss this....

quality time together

1.21 OVer her lap

Over her lap

1.21 Thought for the day

01.19 Monday Diary

Wow. I experience a moment...a minute or two...around 6 a.m. when I felt nothing...and by that, I mean NO PAIN at all, in my gut.

Off, and out from work  06:20.
Stopped for  fifteen bucks of gas...
Home 07:01.
Fed all the animals...
Then fed myself, with the last two cans of chili in the cupboard, and three pieces of whole wheat toast.

And in bed, next to Merry, 0800.

As we both slept, and woke up, during the day, She told me She was having flu-like symptoms.

I remember being awake  10ish, and 1145ish, and 3 ish and 5 ish..
And I got up 1745...
Took some pills, sat on the toilet, took a shower, and dressed....
Said good bye to Her
In car 6:35
At work 7:16.

MT was my co worker...so, easy enough night.

D sl S  33
D sl O  61
D sl D  61
D sl Cig 56

1.20 His full attention

1.20 still at the DWC meeting

Still at a DWC meeting

1.20 Thought for the day

1.19 I am SO lucky

1.19 at the DWC meeting

Disciplinary wives club

01.18 SUNDAY diary

02:30 left work...
Kept thinking, "Is there ANYTHING to eat at home?"
Couldn't think of anything, and drove through Jack in the Box...
and home, 03:18.
Fed the very loud cats...
And sat down with two days' newpapers, to eat.
Then to bed....
Slept through most of the day off and on.
Awake enough to turn on the tv for the late play off game.
Slept while it was on.
Merry and Stitch arrived home 4..ish, and She came directly to bed.

I got up ...1815...  
ONE day I slept through without getting up to use the toilet any or several times...and OF COURSE this was the moment that Stitch had chosen to be cleaning the bathroom.
He got out of the way, when I headed that way, but JEEZ..
I'm going to start posting a RESERVED sign on the door, for whatever times I want people to stay the fuck out of it.

And dressed, and said GoodBye to Merry...
In car 1830 and at work  1923.

Fairly easy night at work, other than having to work with EJ, who has just barely graduated from "fucking idiot" to "idiot".

DAYS since last sex:  32
DAYS since last "O":  60
DAYS since last 'D'   60
DAYS unlocked   58

Her DO  : NO

DAYS since last C  55

1.19 Thought for the day

1.17 Saturday Diary

Around 03:00, She turned off the tv.
Got some sleep....
She woke up at 0730, yelling, "SHIT!"

She jumped up, I got up slowly....
She started packing and printing documents, while I fed the dogs, and helped as I could....
She and Stitch left by  0845.

I watched ep after ep of "Criminal Minds"
 Did some online bill paying...
Started laundry....
 More eps of "Criminal Minds"
 Still in pain, called my work supervisor, said, I was gonna be 'late'.
He said, via text, okay.

Managed to get up and feed the animals.
Toilet, again and again and again...  musta gone 6 or seven times in the course of the day.
Got into the shower, 20:00.
Dressed, and  tried to "Donna proof" the house.
(Closed the bedroom and bathroom doors,  and generally tried to hide or lock up the kinda stuff that our adorable pit bull is likely to tear apart, when nobody is home.

Car, 2045.
At work, 21:20.

Yeah, it was 'busy'/
All, drivers clearing, whether our company's or affiliates, calling in 'clear', bringing cars in, checking in for next day's work...etc....

H sl S  760
H sl O  1431
H sl D  1432
H UN  1377
Her Do  NO
D sl Ci  54

1.18 Thought for the day

1.16 Friday diary

Awake, more or less, with a pounding headache and an aching gut.

Slept on and off all day....

Supposed to go to GrueMunch with Merry and Hilordbubba, but I just couldn't,and Merry left with Stitch.

I continued sleeping and/or watching tv.

Besides "Criminal Minds" I watched an ep of 'Undercover Boss' featuring the CEO/CoB of one of the prime competitors of the company in the industry I work.

They arrived home...2300something.

She came to bed midnightish, and I tried to go to sleep.

HslS  736
HsLO 1407
HsLD 1408
H UN  1353

Her DO  NO
D s l Ci  53 

01.15 Thursday Diary

Up a couple times...
Merry up at 0430, yelling about a 'mess' in the other bedroom.

UP 1015.
Prepped and dressed.
In car 1035. At my dentist, 1100.
Had a new crown put on.
Out 1140, passed through Starbucks, then home.
Merry was just heading out on a WSOJ lunch date.

In the bedroom, 
I watched "SVU", "Shameless" "Episodes" ..
Took a nap...
Watched 'American Horror Story' with Her..
then "Big Bang Theory'
Then She had dinner ready...
I watched "Elementary"
And tried going to sleep.

HslS  712
HsLO  1383
HsLD  1384
H UN 1329
Her DO  No
D s l Ci  52

01.14 Wednesday Diary

OFf 0839
Home 0930
Leftover stir fry for dinner...
And to bed.
Asleep, then awake,all day long..
Until dinner time,and up.
(lasagna and baguette)
Watched "Criminal Minds"
Watched parts 1 and 2 of the "Major Crimes" finale.

Asleep again, midnight or so.

H sl S  688
H sl O  1359
H sl D 1360
H Un  1305
Her DO  no
D sl Ci  51

01.13 Tuesday Diary

Off 6: 25
Home  706.
Merry arrived right behind me, as She had just taken Stitch to work.
We talked..I ate.. 
I was in bed, 0800.
Up around noon, P & S.
Up 17:30.
She and Stitch were gone... or leaving, off to a WSOJ meeting.
I ate, took pills, used the toilet, showered...dressed...
made coffee..
In car  18:30.
Work 19:41.

H sl S  664
H sl O  1335
H sl D  1336
H un  1281

Her DO  No
Days sl C  50

1.17 Thought for the Day Spanking advice for the novice Female

F/m Spanking Advice for the Novice Female Spanker

My advice is to use what Is called domestic discipline.

You do not need to be an expert.

Find your tool.

Use a flat wooden hair brush, back scrubber, spatula, etc…a nice big wooden spoon works well and also is very quiet if privacy is needed . use the smooth back side of the spoon. Any of these will work, but I recommend buying a spanking paddle.

They are all over the net. However for beginners the wooden brush or spoon is very effective.

Now that you have your tool . You need to put him over your knee it must be done this way to gain a powerful presence over him .

Even if your man is a big burly guy you can position him over your knee easily it may take a few try to figure this out .

The only other way it should be done is with him bent over a chair with his behind in the air slightly. You will then have a powerful position over him.

begin the spanking by swatting light but fast to the dead center of one of his cheeks .Then the other, alternate between the two cheeks . Keep the swats in the same spot every time and always on the meaty part of his bottom. increase the strength as you go on

Be very verbal during this.Let him know why you are spanking him. Let him know who is in charge in your home. Let him know why you are mad with him . Ask him if he understands? ask him if he is going to be good.

The spanking should end when you feel satisfied or he is crying . Or he is complying to what ever it is you were trying to achieve.

After this has ended you will feel a great relief as well and he will have a whole new outlook.

ALL men will love and respect you for this. Most men pay me to do this do them.

01.16 Thought for the day: Hairbrush spanking

Sub Hubby’s Hairbrush Spanking

A regular regimen of hairbrush spankings is a reliable way that old fashioned dominant wives use to keep submissive males obedient and properly subservient.

01.15 Thought for the Day

Punishment Room Spanking

Lonely and Isolated

This male slave’s Mistress has a unique and effective way of punishing him. Not that she doesn’t spank him. He gets a severe spanking for every offense. But she doesn’t feel a mere spanking alone is enough.

Mistress has set aside a large empty room that she calls the Punishment Room. The room is nearly empty. There are two closed curtains, a light bulb and the chair.

When displeased by laziness or ineptitude she decides the slave needs correction she strips him and orders him to go sit in the chair in the Punishment Room. The duration of his time in the chair varies. How badly did he sin against his Mistress. What is her mood.

Sitting in the chair facing the wall sometimes for hours he finds himself thinking over and over again of his offense. Repenting deeply that he failed his Mistress. Desperate for forgiveness.

He hears her moving around. Making her own coffee. A task he normally performs. She has stripped him not of his clothes but everything. Even his service to her.

One the worst days his inability to sit still, to position his body comfortably leaves him exhausted and aching.

Finally his Mistress returns and gives the slave his whipping. No matter how intense the pain he is so grateful to escape the Punishment Room.

01.14 Thought for the Day

Why Do Men Want To Be Spanked By Women (F/m Psychology)
NOVEMBER 14, 2014 BY FEMDOM RELATIONSHIPS LEAVE A COMMENT

Female Led Corporal Spankophilia

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Spanking fetishism also colloquially termed spankophilia is characterized by a person becoming sexually aroused by the giving or receiving of spankings, or both. It seems to be related to, but not identical with other fetishes such as domination/submission play, bondage, sadomasochism and pygophilia (buttocks fetishism).

female-led-punishment

Do you think that punishment has a place in a F/m love affair? Serious punishment or play?

Generally fetishism is defined as a pathological assignment of sexual fixation, fantasies or behaviors toward an inanimate object such as an item of clothing (underclothing, high-heeled shoes, etc.) or to non-genital body parts such as the feet, but the definition also includes circumstances where a person experiences arousal from participating in activities not normally considered to be sexual in nature, like spanking.

According to psychology practitioners, there is a degree of fetishistic arousal in most “normal” individuals. Fetishistic arousal is generally considered a problem only when it interferes with normal sexual or social functioning or where sexual arousal is impossible without the object of the fetish.



While I have very limited experience with erotic spankings, I do find the concept very erotic and arousing. I have spanked two past vanilla female sexual partners both over-the-knee and in conjunction with “doggie style” sexual intercourse. Both of them later told me that they didn’t find the over-the-knee spankings particularly arousing but both did very much feel that it contributed a great deal to their arousal when experienced in conjunction with penetrative sex. From my perspective I did not find giving spankings to be arousing, beyond simply the act of touching their bare bottoms which is not surprising since I consider the female bottom to be the single most erotic female body part. Yet fantasizing about being spanked is something I do find very arousing. Since I do experience sexual arousal from any number of stimuli I would assume that spankophilia is a benign fetish for me since it is only one of many things that I find arousing. I have never received an erotic spanking but have spanked myself at the direction of a dominant woman and I did find that to be an arousing experience. I feel that for me personally, it was the domination/submission dynamics of the situations involved that was most responsible for the feelings of arousal since I am not at all very masochistic and do not generally seek out opportunities to experience pain.



There is an ongoing debate in psychology circles about why a person might enjoy and find the idea of being spanked to be arousing, either actually receiving a spanking or through fantasizing about it. Some believe it caused by the person receiving or witnessing spankings during childhood, especially around the age of puberty. This idea corresponds to classical psychology theories. According to Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, sexual deviations are developed in childhood. The basis of his theory was that children may cope with a painful or traumatic experience by “eroticizing” it. Interestingly enough, I recently read an article concerning a survey conducted in the UK where 35% of the respondents who identified themselves as persons who found spanking to be erotic and sexually arousing, stated that they had never been spanked or witnessed a spanking, which seems to indicate rather clearly, that the Freud’s theory doesn’t provide an all inclusive explanation.

Another theory is that some people find spanking to be arousing because of the fact that physical pain is known to cause an endorphin rush for some individuals which causes spanking to be a pleasant experience, comparable to the effects of certain drugs. If the person is spanked hard and frequently (resulting in frequent and intense endorphin rushes) they may become “addicted” to spankings. Over time they come to associate spankings with not only pleasant but erotic feelings. Again not all submissives are masochistic, and so this theory to has its inherent limitations.

Thus far we have considered only erotic spankings, spankings used for the purpose of sexual play. With regards to submissive men and female led relationships, there is also disciplinary spanking. As a submissive man I find the idea of being spanked by a dominant female partner to be a normal and beneficial part of a female led relationship. Like anyone else I am at time prone to make mistakes and need correction. I need to be held accountable and a spanking could provide that accountability. If I failed in some way towards her by say being inadvertently inconsiderate or disrespectful to her or by failing by design or neglect to perform some assigned task, then I feel I would be most deserving of a spanking which would be a very practical means of making amends. As the dominant partner, she certainly would have the right to choose the kind of amends based on the nature of my offense that she felt best addressed and corrected the problem and if she chose to spank me over say simply accepting my heartfelt and sincere apology, then of course I would willingly submit to her decision. While this kind of spanking would not be enjoyable or pleasurable I doubt it would be sexually arousing either. In fact I have read numerous accounts from dominant women who regularly spank their submissive male partners in which all agreed, when done correctly, it is not at all a pleasant experience for the man and is very effective in eliminating the offending behaviors that precipitated the spankings.

I think disciplinary spanking appeals to me with respect to female led relationships on two levels. First, submitting to being spanked would provide a very strong image of her dominance over me and my submission to her. Second, being spanked would allow me to pay for my transgression in a tangible way which would make me feel better about the situation and would allow us to put the affront behind us and in the past so that we could go forward with my behavior appropriately modified. I would also love to experience the erotic variety as well, just to learn what the effects were with regard to arousal.

01.12 Monday Diary

Out,  612.
Cruising along heading home at a good clip on the 710.
Passed the 105 and thought, just a couple off ramps.
Next thing, I saw the interchange for the 405.
I had missed my offramp and a couple more.
Got off, turned around, saw I had about 4 miles to my offramp. 
Goodness.
Home 0701.
Feed the animals.
Sat down to eat sandwiches, left over from the office the night before, while reading the Sunday paper.
Took my pills, and into bed 750.

Kinda awake 1200... again 1500.
Up and awake before my alarm 1730.
A snack of potato chips to quiet down my stomach...
Toilet and shower and dressed... and pills, and made coffee.
Watched the first quarter of the BCS championship game....
Kissed Her, goodbye..
In car 1825, at work 729.
Figured out how to watch the rest of the game on the office computer.  
OSU crushed OU.  

I had in my mind given OSU zero chance in this game.  I figured OU would score every time they had the ball.
So, as usual, if I had announced my pick out loud, anybody listening should have mortgaged their house, sold their car, taken out a loan, and bet on OSU.  
That's why I don't do sports betting.

Fairly easy night at work.  
A bit of a disagreement with Merry  because of , due to, via, text messages.  
Just another thing I simply should not do, to stay out of trouble.

HslS  640  (Dec 17th)
HsLO  1311
HsLD  1312
H UN  1257
Her DO  NO
D s l Cig  49  (SEVEN WEEKS)

01.13 Thought for the Day International Male Chastity Day

01.12 Thought for the Day

When Woman Spanks Man
DECEMBER 30, 2014 BY FEMALE LED RELATIONSHIPS EDITOR 1 COMMENT

Consensual Erotic F/m Spanking

You the spanker, are an artist, and I, the spankee, are your canvas. I offer my bottom for your artistry, to paint in shades of red and gradations of heat, as you will. You must let nothing stand in the way of creating your masterpiece! You are absolutely determined to complete your work and will brook no equivocation from your model on the way to your goal. It is this attitude that must prevail.

In recognition of our relative positions of power here; you fully (?) clothed, me mostly naked with my bare bottom turned up for your chastising attentions, some formal symbol of respect is due to you. You may have noticed that I require you to call me Sir during our spanking sessions, and that I insist you remain in whatever position I place you until I give you leave to move from it. I suggest you institute a similar policy. Perhaps you should be called Ma’am by your spankee at all times; or perhaps Miss or your full first name are preferable. In any event, you should require that your spankee address you properly and respectfully at all times from start to finish.

Even though this is going to be a friendly, erotic spanking, you should still require that I obey your commands at all times. Getting out of position is disobedience, and you must promptly punish such impertinence. Likewise trying to block your spanks outright, or evade them through excessive wriggling. You have experience being on the receiving end of such discipline; I’m sure you can relate to how to keep your naughty young man in control!

Don’t get the idea that just because you will be relentless in achieving your spanking aims, that you need to be serious and humorless all the time! What rot! There is no reason you can’t share jokes, laughs and body fluids during a spanking, so long as you remain firmly in control. And you WILL be tested, count on it!

1.11 Sunday: Diary

4:30  UP , P & S

08:00 Awake when Stitch came into the bedroom.  And I noticed, our pit bull was laying on the bed to my left side, my left arm on top of her.  I had slept through the moment that she jumped on the bed.
11:00 Awake enough to change my alarm setting from 1105 to 1230.
1230 up, sent text to supervisor, saying I was moving slow, I would be there, at work, but not at 14:00.
1400.. Up, toilet, shower, dress....
Kissed Merry, good bye.
In car 1429...and work 1506.  

Event season has begun.  
Golden Globe's, tonight.
My primary duty for this night, is the set up for the next day.
Less than 100 rides to start for Monday, so no big deal, other than...so many of our day time drivers are working the show tonight, that I'm in a bit of a quandary as to who can handle being out late with the show, then starting early in the morning.....
Something I dealt with.
Then, I see the other regular overnight guy, RT, was brought in..he came in around 1730, to help me with the overnight, the craziness that happens once a show is over, and people are starting to move, whether to parties, or home or wherever.
MT stayed until 2300,  RT was with me until 0330.

HslS  616
HsLO 1287
HsLD  1288
h UN 1233

HER DO  No
Days s l Cig  48