8.28 Friday Diary

In BR1 together...
 Rewatched 'Zoo'....
Engaged in oral and intercourse....  0200  
sleeping..

Awake, kind of  1300 
 and feeling
  like 
   crap.
  Depressed, a lot..
 and a dull ache in my belly that I could not shake.

She wanted to go to the market; I suggested, we wait for sundown.

I dozed in the living room chair  until like   20:00
Up and dressed...
We went to Von's and Winco... and home...

Dinner .. baked chicken and rice....
and to BR1 to sleep some more.

s l S   22 Hr
s l O   481 Hr
S l Fun/me  221 H
s l Fun/Her  221 H
UN  372 Hr
s h l DO  22 Hr
s l Ci  275 Dy
Glu Free  35 D
S H last D  452 H
s l P or M  14 D

8.27 Thursday Diary

In bed, watched reruns of some show or other...  sleep about 02:30

Kind of awake, 0800...

We started fooling around, and engaged in oral and intercourse, with no happy ending for me.... 11.00

Into the living room...
watching  "The Newsroom" on my tablet... 
half asleep most of the time...

Merry started having problems that were keeping Her close to the toilet, so when it came time, I got to be the driver to take Bullfrog, along with Babyman, to his storage unit, with the last of the stuff that was in my car, then go to his ex-apartment, to check out a motorcycle that he was considering taking over possession of, but it would not fit in my vehicle... and from there, he went his own way on a skateboard, and I returned home with Babyman.   

Back in chair, napping, watching "The Newsroom" ....

Dinner... no idea what...  while reading Thursday's paper...

and moved into BR1

s l S   13 Hr
s l O  457 Hr
s l F/me  197 H
s l F/Her  197 Hr
UN  348 Hr
S H l DO  13 H
s l Ci  274 Dy
Glu free 34 D
S Her l D  428 H
S l P or M  13 D

8.26 Wednesday Diary, after work and home

Left work  8:45.
Home 9:39.
Looked into the garage, as I was told the electric garage door was not working.
Given that most of the outlets in the garage were not working, decided it to be a circuit breaker, but have yet to narrow down just which one.
MDM  pork and rice, while watching "Rizzoli and Isles".
Merry got an emergency call from Her oldest son, asking Her to come help him.
She got up and dressed, and took Babyman with Her to go do that, I went into the cooler BR2 to get some sleep.
Shortly, She called me to say, She was coming back to use my vehicle for moving.
I went outside, to move it onto this side of the street, and to get my personal gear out of it ... to make more room...and went back to sleep.
Awake, around 19:00.
Merry was still gone... eventually got home 2200 or so.
I showed Stitch how to get the garage door open...
And sat around and read, and watched "The Newsroom" on my tablet...
And dinner,  pork chops and rice...
and in BR1, watched "Zoo" and "Suits" ..
and to sleep.

s l s        180 hr
s l O       433 hr
s l F/me  173 hr
s l F/her  173 hr
UN         324 hr
S H l DO  180 hr
s l CI          273 D
Glu-free    33 D
s H l D      404 H
s l P or M    12 D

8.30 on chastity and orgasm control

Reducing the frequency of orgasms

Reducing the frequency of orgasms by the male will have a substantial effect on his sexual ardor and the focus of that sexual ardor, which will be his wife/significant. This means the male should avoid masturbation. 

In the beginning, the male should go without orgasm for at least several days at a time, extending over time to 1 to 4 weeks, depending upon a number of other variables. There is powerful biochemistry at work when orgasm frequency is reduced. There is a steady build-up in Dopamine (the desire and pleasure neurotransmitter) and Oxytocin (the bonding or devotion neurotransmitter). Orgasm releases a flood of dopamine which is immediately disposed of by a release of Prolactin leaving the male in a depressed Dopamine condition for a week or more.

What is the ideal time between orgasms for the male? 

That it is personal choice for the two individuals involved in the relationship. It’s a trade-off between the desire by the man to experience the intense pleasure of orgasm (greatly amplified by the infrequency from higher receptor concentration) while minimizing the period of low dopamine loss of feelings of well-being. 

For the female, the trade-off is a complex mix of what she believes is best for her mate whom she loves, what is best for their relationship, and frankly what is best for her. Realistically, every time her mate orgasms, she can expect one to two weeks of a low dopamine, low oxytocin mate with the attendant loss of attention and devotion that she enjoys the rest of the time and probably a more irritable, cranky mate as well.

Moods and feelings that are associated dopamine, prolactin, and oxytocin 

Dopamine:

Normal/Somewhat Elevated: Motivated, Feelings of well-being, pleasure in accomplishing tasks, healthy libido, optimistic about life, good feelings towards others, a desire to bond with others, sound choices.

Low Level: depression, Anhedonia (no pleasure, the world looks colorless), lack of ambition and drive, inability to feel love, low libido, no remorse about personal behavior, social anxiety, impaired judgment.

Prolactin

The symptoms associated with excess levels of prolactin are:
lethargy, loss of libido, depression, irritability, infertility, decreased testosterone levels, weight gain, little interest in bonding with others, pessimistic about life.

Oxytocin:

Normal/Elevated: strong feelings of attachment, devotion and connection; increased sexual receptivity, positive feelings, health benefits (lowers blood pressure, faster wound healing) fewer cravings and addictions, feelings of protection and responsibility.

Low Levels: little or no feelings of attachment, devotion or connection, little or no feelings of protection and responsibility for another, low libido, depression and weakened immune system.

The three most important “factors” in Chastity

Dopamine - the neurotransmitter that causes the feeling of pleasure we receive from engaging in certain activities. Sexual arousal, the eating of calorie rich foods, and for some, certain other behaviors like gambling or shopping, and the ingestion of certain drugs like cocaine, amphetamines and heroin all raise the level of dopamine in our reward center. 

This rising level is experienced as pleasure and the higher the level, the more intense the pleasure provided there are sufficient receptors to accommodate the rising level. The intense pleasure of orgasm that we experience results from the sudden flood of dopamine that is released in the reward center of our brain.

Prolactin - the neurotransmitter of satiation; it applies the brakes, so to speak, on the level and duration of dopamine and oxytocin ( it affects oxytocin indirectly by its effect on dopamine). Prolactin levels generally remain stable in the reward center of the brain except during orgasm when they are substantially increased to deal with (i.e counteract or reduce the level of) the sudden flood of dopamine and oxytocin. The elevated levels of prolactin after orgasm persist for a minimum of one week and as long as two weeks

Oxytocin - often called the “cuddle hormone,” when the level is elevated, it produces the pleasurable feeling of bonding or “connectedness,” as well as feelings of closeness, devotion and protection. It is the primary factor in establishing the basis for pair bonding. A burst of oxytocin is produced during orgasm and is responsible for the post orgasm afterglow of love and connectedness we feel. 

After orgasm, in men, the level or oxytocin quickly drops - in less than an hour it is well below the level it was at before sexual arousal began. In women, the post orgasmic level of oxytocin decreases more slowly reaching normal levels in several hours and remaining there. In addition to orgasm, the other mechanism for raising the level of oxytocin is touching and caressing, not necessarily in a sexual manner; even the simple act of holding hands will raise oxytocin levels.

 Even when the level of oxytocin is reduced to normal levels, although the powerful bonding feeling is lost, the memory of that feeling remains. It is that memory that provides the basis for long term relationships to survive the dopamine/prolactin roller coaster.

*ok* Scenes Spade Nine pegged enchaste

♠ 9

Roleplay:  pegging him while he is in chastity

“Oh?” She says. “You’ve been locked up for SOOOO long that NOW you want penetrative sex?  I’ll GIVE you penetrative sex.  Get your clothes off, and get on the bed, FDAU.”

He strips down to naked, showing the CD locked onto his genitals, and gets on the bed, FDAU.

She enters the room, searches through a drawer, produces a strap on, and straps it on.

She rubs lube onto the dildo, then moves in close to him, applies lube between his cheeks, and onto his anus, brings the tip of the dildo to bear on the target, and pushes in, while he pushes back, and she fucks him.

“THIS is what you wanted, RIGHT, dear?”

“Yes, honey, yes…ohhh ohhh.”

After (RNG 5-10) minutes, She withdraws.

“Now that you got what you wanted, it’s my turn for what I want.

*gs* Scenes Diamond Queen bad boy gets enema

♦ Queen

Role play:  a bad boy is given an enema, then more

“You’ve been such a bad boy!” she says, taking him by the ear into the bathroom.  “Get undressed.”

He strips, while she fills the enema bag with cold water.  “On the ground,” she says.  He gets down, FDAU, She administers the full bag.

“You will hold this for fifteen minutes, or it will be very painful for you.”

If he is unable to hold it, he is bent over a chair, and (RNG 20-40) swats of the zombie killer are given, then he is sent to stand in the corner for 15 minutes.

If he succeeds,  he is treated to a (RNG 5-10 ) minute session of his ass being fucked by a strap on.

*HMM* Scenes Diamond Jack CT+pillory+humbler

♦ Jack

Corner time, CBP, and Humbler, oh my

"Time for more training, Shilo, get naked."

He is sent to stand naked in the corner for (RNG 10-30) minutes.

He is called out, to step into the CBP, ankles in the clamps, bent over, and   balls pulled back between his legs and into the vice.

His ass and anus is used and abused at her pleasure and discretion, which could range from no contact at all, to contact the whole time,  with plug, dildo, Icyhot.  

He is released, and told to stay in position long enough to have the humbler attached to his balls.

She sits down, and receives oral service.

"Now start housecleaning..."  

He does so, with the humbler in place.