12.31 Thought for the Day "For him or for you?"

For Him or For You?

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I get a large number of women telling me that they worry that they are not doing enough, or the right things, to keep their partner satisfied. First of all, and I have said this until I am blue in the face... It is NOT about his pleasure, it is about yours!

Many women fear that they are not doing enough, or that he will get bored with the things they are doing. I can understand these feelings. I have been there myself. However, I came to the realization that I was creating my own fear. I had a fear of failure, of not doing it right, or not doing enough to keep him happy. It is not about him!

To put it simply, you should not be doing things FOR him, but TO him. You should be doing things FOR YOU! Don't think in terms of whether or not you are pleasing him, but rather, is he pleasing you? You are (or should be) the focus of all he does. It is your job to make him focus on those things. If he is not happy doing that, then he may not be cut out to be a submissive.

If that is the case, it is up to you to mold him into the man you want him to be. If he is bored, shame on you. You are not giving him enough to do to keep him aroused. You are, probably, not using his fantasies to your advantage. You should learn to do that. If you are doing it, then do it more often. You can always have him do a webtease. It not only keeps him busy but, usually, allows him an orgasm. Maybe you should make up (or modify) your own webtease that does NOT end with his satisfaction, but rather your satisfaction.

Your partner should be coming to you and asking what he can do for you. If he isn't, then he is not aroused enough. If he complains about not getting enough (sexually) then find more ways to arouse him without having to satisfy him.

Nine times out of ten, if things are not going right, it is because you are creating your own problem. If you keep in mind that it is not what you do for him, but rather what you do to him for yourself, you will get along much better.

Mistress Ivey

12.30 Tuesday--Diary

Left work  0615.
Home, 0651.

She was soundly asleep.
I fed the critters...and fed myself ... leftover fish wedges, leftover sweet potatoes...  
And into bed 0745.
I noticed Her getting up, 1030 or so....  She had a lunch date to get to.
I got up sometime for P & S .  
And again around 1600, because of an insistent knocking on the door.  
  I opened it, to see an unfamiliar female.
 "I'm here to pick up  Joe."  Not the real name given, but it was Stitch's real name.
 Confused, I said, "He's not home from work yet."
"What? I'm supposed to pick him up... Joe Mendoza?"
 "Uh no, sorry, we have a Joe that lives here, but not with THAT last name."
"You sure...?"
"Yeah, I really am."
 She left. Then it dawned on me, I could have asked what address she was looking for, but I was too foggy.
Back to bed.
I heard Her return home not long thereafter.
I got up 1715 or so...started piddling around.
In time, dressed, got myself ready for work...
She warned me about some problem on the NB 710.
I was in my car 1822...
And decided to see the problem for myself.
Well...at work  1940 or so.

Easy night.....

H sl S  324
H sl o  995
H sl D  996
H UN 945
HER DO   No
D sl CI  36

12.30 Thought for the Day...Anything?

Anything???

“As long as I keep you from having an orgasm, you'll agree to do anything I want?” The answer to that question when asked of a man on the edge of orgasm is invariably, “Yes.”

Don't believe me? Try it sometime! Of course, once he has had an orgasm his entire attitude will, most likely, change. That is, unless it is something he doesn't mind doing in the first place. For example, many men are willing to drink their own cum, so asking him to do that might not change with an orgasm. But what about sucking another man's cock? Not many will do that without the proper incentive. In fact, I have found that most women who actually want their partner (slave, subbie, boy toy, or what have you) to do something often ask this question in the wrong way or at the wrong time.

What do I mean by that? Here's an example of asking the wrong question (or asking in the wrong way); “Will you suck another man's cock if I let you cum?” Do you see how that puts his reward before he has completed his part of the bargain? Instead, try putting the question to him as a statement this way; “I will let you cum if you first suck another man's cock.” Or, “You can have an orgasm as soon as you have sucked another man's cock.” See the difference? If you really want your victim to perform something he would not ordinarily do (perhaps something humiliating) promise him a reward only after he has completed the task, not before.

I know that many woman have difficulty learning to talk erotically to their partners during sex. Because of this, they tend to be timid when it comes to psychological torment. You may never want your partner to suck another man's cock (just for example) but making him think that you will can be very sexually arousing to him. Obviously, if you are only attacking his psyche with your play, you would want to ask the question differently. Instead of making him perform the task before his reward, you simply want him to agree to complete that task. That is, you want him to say that he will suck another man's cock (or drink his own cum, or dress like a woman, or whatever the task is) before receiving his reward, especially if you don't plan on making him actually follow through.

Ladies, please understand the difference. Every man who enjoys being sexually teased (and they all do) has fantasies of things he would love to be “forced” to do. He also has a list of things that he likes to fantasize about being forced to do but would never really do under any circumstances. Your job, as his tormentor, is to learn what these things are and which are which. Then, and only then, can you really keep your partner on his toes and torment his mind, as well as his body, properly.

In answer to all the questions I've received on the subject... Yes you can make your guy agree to just about anything as long as you keep him from having that orgasm.

Mistress Ivey

Diary Monday 12.29

Off work  06:20.... home  07:15.

She was not home, having left to take babybear home.

I fed all the animals...and started on my own DM of leftover lasagna, bread, chips....   as She arrived home.  
She announced that She was ill,  with 'stuff' emerging from Her in ways that is contra-indicative of normal body functions and excretions, and went to bed.
I finished up, and followed Her... in bed,  0800ish.

1315, up for P & S... She was up, sitting at Her computer...  we talked a few minutes, I went back to bed.

1715 Up, talking with Her, eating an apple...dressed.... 

1820 in car...
 Stopped at a 7-11 on Santa Monica and Las Palmas...
 Office  19:20. 

Really easy night...   finished with '48' for Monday, starting with '45' for Tuesday...   
 MT, my co worker of the evening, and a co-supervisor, asked me if I was willing to work Friday or Saturday overnight.... 
I asked, why, and she confided to me that the 'other' overnight guy was gonna be let go on Friday,  because, one of our account holders called in, saying she was going to pull her whole account, because this person was so rude to her. 
 Ding dong the Witch is dead, the Witch is dead, the Witch is dead
And we discussed ideas for getting the set up done, during the event-filled calendar of January....
And made plans for a card game get together on Thursday.

H sl S   300
H sl O  971
H sl D  972
H  un  921
Her DO  No
D sl CI  35

A comment was placed on my journal entry of 12.29,  stating...among other things, that I have a choice of  " ...lowering expectations or  feeling dissatisfied / unsatisfied".
Well...
  I have no intentions of 'settling', i.e.,  of lowering my expectations.
And so, IF the other thing mentioned really is the only other choice... 
  so be it.  

12.30 Thought for the day.... IMHO how it should be done

http://needherdiscipline.tumblr.com/post/104681515986#

12.29 Thought for the day

From the blog: A Man in my position

Of course we’re going to Church,” said the Lady of the House six minutes before the service began in our wonderful little Church seven minutes from our front door. I’m afraid I said something a bit disrespectful as to Hannah’s lateness. As we walked at speed to Church she leaned over to me, “And when we get home we’ll take care of your snarky comment.”

Church passed quickly and we soon were walking home. Hannah had enjoyed the service and we had fun dissecting the sermon. And, truth to tell, I was pretty sure Hannah had forgotten all about my remark. I was wrong. As I took off her coat she said, “You can go up to your corner and wait for me. Don’t bother apologising. I really should have whipped you before we went to Church and you could have enjoyed a well welted bottom on the pew for an hour. But we’ll make up for that now.”

I did as I was told and about fifteen minutes later I heard Hannah coming up the stairs. “You can get into position.” was all she said.

I knelt on our bed. No warm up. Just strokes of the heavy rattan cane. First half a dozen medium and then, with only a second’s pause to adjust her position six full swings of the cane. I was grunting after two and I could feel the welts rising. The last two strokes crossed the first four as Hannah swung her cane on the diagonal.

“There.”she said standing back and admiring her work, “If I am running late it is none of your business. And those welts will remind you to speak respectfully. Now pull up your girdle and we can have coffee.”

I am very loved indeed.

12.29 Journal

According to my Numbers Log, it's been 948 hours. 

That's 39 1/2 days....  since the last 'real' 'good' spanking She gave me.

By that, I mean there have been a few minor incidents... such as when we were sitting in the living room, and She said 'get over my knee', or I was in the bathroom, naked and out of the shower, and She grabbed the hairbrush and smacked my butt a few times.

But a real session, that left my bottom bruised and crimson  (and we videotaped for our clips4sale site) happened ...  nearly 40 days ago.

We did not stop due to lack of desire, on Her part.  There were times when She suggested ..even "ordered" it... and I seem to recall a time or two of flatly refusing.  
We were at my parents' house for nearly five days, and did not do a darned thing this year; the previous year, we were doing twice-a-days.

All because of me and this mysterious I.B.S illness,  with symptoms of a chronic pain in my gut, somewhere below my stomach.  

A visit to the doctor did not help much.  
She suggested, stress...and try to learn to relax.
Well, so much easier said than done.

I've missed quite a bit of work,  the pain has been so ...annoying.

I have not been aroused by anything, the pain has been so much.  I had plenty of piss hard-ons during this period, but once I urinated, it disappeared, and I really had no ideas or thoughts about physical pleasures during this time.

Well, it has subsided quite a bit.

Not completely, not all gone...but close.   

During this period of abstinence, She and I had ... talks, during which She told me, She had not entered our marriage looking for a strictly vanilla one...  that She enjoys beating my bottom... She enjoys beating any willing bottom, but mine in particular... and doesn't want to have to fulfill this need outside of our marriage, but if it really comes down to it...if I insist on sticking to vanilla, She might go looking outside and elsewhere to scratch this particular itch.

Do I feel threatened by that?  
Of course not.  
I just don't 'do' jealousy.

I remember telling Her, that when we do get back into the DD/CP, I would only 'allow' it if we were filming it, for use on our c4s site. 
And, not while Tallship was in the house.
This last week, Tallship has been doing a fair job of making himself scarce for some hours on a daily basis.
BUT, we've had Her twenty-something-year-old son at the house since Tuesday or so...  nearly a week...  which severely limited ANYTHING we might have considered doing.

She is taking that son home, or to school, one or the other, doesn't matter which, but probably home, so he can drop off his bags... early this morning.  

So, am I ready to resume DD/CP etc etc when I get home from work, when She gets home....   ?

Well...no...not really....

There is still the issue I am having of...
  my unfulfilled fantasies.
I've had hundreds of fantasies go through my head...and I've written close to a hundred of them into scenes ... that we were going to use as special treats... back when we were doing 'treats'.  (Which lasted, about three minutes, as I recall.)
  There are scenarios that can bring forth instant arousal within me (or could, when my gut wasn't hurting).
 I've yearned for the longest time to play out these scenarios, to enact these fantasies...  and a few time, we've... come close.  
 So close...
 BUT when I get that close... yet not quite there...I feel like... I'd asked for a pizza with pepperoni and sausage and onions and bell peppers, and told, I can only get one with just cheese.  
 Should I settle for the plain cheese pizza, or should I say, "Nah, I'll get something else?"
 I don't typically 'settle'.  If I can't have what I want the way I want it,  I'm most likely to decline whatever is offered instead, and wait for whatever it is I exactly want, even if it's not necessarily forthcoming SOON.

But compromise?  Yeah, I can do that.
I might take the plain pizza NOW, if I'm told I'll get the one with the works NEXT time.

Here's a thing:
I'm not entirely sure what the hell I'm talking about.

I'm trying to say, I am really torn between WANTING to get back into the DD/CP lifestyle, and NOT wanting to.
I realize, I am NOT fond of thinking myself a 'slave' ...
Or even a 'submissive husband'.
I think we've had enough discussions to make THAT clear.

BUT I enjoy having my bottom beaten ..by Her. 
I would enjoy doing roleplays that fit that lifestyle.
But I am too self-willed, headstrong, stubborn,  etc..   to actually LIVE and BE that sub/slave.

What to do, what to do?

Diary Sunday 12.28

UP 0500,  P and S
UP noon...when She woke me, asking what I wanted to eat....
Got up, fed the small dogs, fed the cats... ate a banana and cinnamon toast, and took pills,  
And went to the toilet..again and again...
THEN She spilled a glass of water on the keyboard of Her computer...and I went about seeing what I could do to fix that....
And finally felt like I could get up and go.
Sunshine had sat down at the table with Stitch to play CAH, and they brought in her two dollies to play, also.
I kissed her good bye, went out to my car...
And stopped for gas...
And was at work, about 1530.

The night work was not 'dead',  but kind of like moving chess pieces on a board to make them fit in the right place....
My associate, MT, bailed around 2100 as the next day's work was so... minimal...

H sl S  276
H sl O  947
H sl D  948  
H UN  847

Her DO  No

D sl C  34

Diary Sat 12.27

Awake 0300  Pee then pie.

Up around 1030...  pee... then coffee and orange rolls..and newpaper.

Started laundry...  put dishes away...  cleaned the chamber pot...  scooped the back yard...  

Showered, dried, dressed...

Talked with Her a minute...

and in my car 1345..

To the bank,  where I waited around to see a banker and took the two ATM cards I had in my possession and assigned them the same PIN.

Then I went to VZW store... I am out of contract on my phone, and wanted to talk about options...

The best option, according to the CSR, an online option of getting a certain phone with a table.  

I accepted that, and moved on....   

Stopped at Harbor Freight, to redeem a coupon for a free pack of 20 AA batteries...

Then a CVS, to get the AZO that She did not get for herself...

Then an Office Max for a pen/pencil bag....

and home 1715, where She was napping in bed next to Babyman.

We discussed dinner, kicked around some options, and decided on Sizzler.

The four of us left, sometime after 1800...

And returned home,  2030...

And at Her request, sat down for another game of CAH.

Over at 2245...

And we adjourned to the bedroom, to watch a movie or two.

The first one was "Ten Things I hate about you"  which, when I first heard about it, I had confused with "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days".   

  Having seen it, I'll say, it was much better... 'tho I have not seen the other one yet.

Then, we watched "Constantine" which I saw in the theater, own on DVD , seen a couple times on cable, but Merry had not seen yet, so we watched it.

   And bed time... 03:15.

H sl S 252

H sl O  923

H sl D  924

H UN  873

HER DO  NO

D sl CI  33

Diary 12.26 Friday, pm

At work...off 1330, home 1430.

Inside...talked to Stitch.... went to the toilet...sigh....

Undressed/changed....
and fell into bed.

Merry came home from the funeral She attended...

I got up for a snack... (pie and ..pie).
A box from Amzn was on the table. 
She knew it was the Christmas gift I had ordered for Her..and Stitch, and She wanted to open it immediately.
I had gotten for Her the game. "Cards against Humanity"... and for Stitch, a bicycle repair kit.
She was excited..
I went back to bed.
Up around 1900...  
Reading...
Dinner was served...  leftover Christmas dinner, which suited me just fine...
Then we cleared the table, and played the game, with all six of us.
To the bedroom, 2300, and I watched 4 episodes of "The Carbanaro Effect".  
Asleep 0100.

H sl S  228
H sl o   899
H sl D  900
H UN  849
Her DO?  No
Day sl Cig  32

12.29 Thought for the Day..

.......siiiiiiiiiiiiigh......


Recently posted on "a man getting spanked" 


Saturday, December 27, 2014
The twelve days of ass blistering............

My wife is off for Christmas vacation and has stated that she is going to spank me everyday. So far, we're five days in and the spankings have been harder, and longer, than usual. I have a feeling that she has been reading all of the stories, and letters, I have been sending her. The stories always include very, very severe ass blisterings that result in the man blubbering over his wife's knee. All I am sure of is that somehow she decided to become a more advanced spanked. She added a few tricks to her arsenal: Longer, harder and lots of swats to the exact same spot.............all of these combined have added a new level of pain to my spankings, which is good and bad..............lol. Maybe she is trying to get me to the point of tears that I have always dreamed of. Maybe she is getting ready to move on to giving me true punishment spankings. Only time will tell. I will tell you that I worship my wife even more than I did before (which I didn't think was possible) and my butt is getting more tender by the day. I have not recovered from last nights spanking and it's almost time for another one. Each spanking is a new form of agony as my butt is still raw from the night before. Even though each spanking seems worse than the night before, I would still not want it any other way. This is the life I chose; this is the life I want!!!

12.28 Thought for the Day

81 - 101 of 101 reasons to Spank Your Man

81. To help him remember important dates like your birthday and your wedding anniversary.

82. Spanking is a good cure for cursing, swearing and foul language.

83. It will help him understand that having muscles and being good-looking is not everything, and that he is also expected to use his brain.

84. To help him remember to put the toilet seat down after using it.

85. He may cry because the spanking you gave him hurt, but then he will smile because it happened.

86. A properly applied spanking relieves the conscience and resets the clock (for him, too).

87. He is too important to ignore.

88. A spanking from you will serve as a reminder that being cranky or general attitude problems will not be tolerated.

89. So he will remember to obey you at all times.

90. Other men get spanked, and you do not want him to feel left out.

91. Putting a man across your lap is actually quite comfortable, for you (not so much for him).

92. He let his mind wander, and he should only be thinking about you.

93. A spanking will remind him that his eyes belong on you, and not ogling other women when the two of you are out together.

94. He was checking out female-male spanking web sites, again, without you, and without permission.

95. You like him in red, and especially with a red bottom.

96. Just because you can.

97. Removing his clothes layer by layer during a spanking can feel like unwrapping a gift.

98. That is what paddles are for (and the second best use for hairbrushes, wooden spoons and leather-soled shoes).

99. Just to make sure he remembers that he belongs to you.

100. There are always more where that last one came from, and you do not want him to forget that.

101. Spanking him empowers you, since once you give him his first really good spanking, you will have more power in your relationship, and forever after.

12.27 Thought for the day

61 - 80  of 101 reasons to Spank Your Man

61. It will serve as a good reminder of the rules, because if he breaks or forgets any of your rules, he will get a spanking, and then he will not do it again (at least not for a while).

62. It is a good stress and anger reliever for you.

63. It is a good excuse for a massage on his bottom afterwards, (but only if he is well behaved!)

64. You have always wanted to spank someone.

65. Spanking him helps you to develop your maternal instinct.

66. A spanking will remind him to perform his chores on time.

67. You can help him to have a good cry, which is especially important if he hasn't had a good cry before, or not for a long time.

68. It will remind him not to take you for granted, and to be thankful for the things you do for him.

69. He will know the importance of sitting up straight, because after a good spanking, he will not do that for a few days!

70. He will learn the meaning of respect for authority, specifically, your authority.

71. He will be reminded what humiliation means and he will learn how to humble himself.

72. It improves the relationship between you and your mother-in-law, especially if he was spanked at home before being meeting you, because now your mother-in-law knows that you care enough to continue to discipline him whenever he needs it.

73. It is a good exercise for your arms.

74. Discipline is a good reminder that his performance in the bedroom is important.

75. A spanking will remind him to help around the house.

76. A spanking will allow you to have your revenge if he embarrasses you in front of friends because he knows, or will soon find out, that you can spank him in front of your friends.

77. Spanking him gives you the authority to encourage your female friends to spank their husbands or boyfriends for misbehavior.

78. It's great entertainment when you have your female friends over at your house because not only can you let them watch you give him a spanking, but you can also let your friends spank him, too.

79. He will learn to control himself and behave while the two of you are out together; if he doesn't, he knows that he will be in for a spanking as soon as the two of you get home.

80. To remind him to leave important decisions to you and not to make decisions or take action without your permission.

Diary Friday 12.26 (a.m.)

If sleep ever did come, it wasn't for more than 15 minutes at a time.
I had the alarm set for 03:30, in order to make a 5:00 shift at work...  
And I felt like a kid before the first day of school.
I think I got up 3 times, to pee...
I put my dog off the bed 3 times, so she could go pee...
She got up around 0200 to go pee, then sat at the computer...in the living room for awhile, before coming back in around 0300....
And my alarm went off at 0330, and I got up.

Toilet, and shower..dry..dressed...
Heated up leftover coffee... packed my snack bag... 
Kissed Her, good-bye...
In car 0420
At work 04:59.

Diary Christmas Day 12.25

Up, around 10:00.
She got up, and started breakfast...   Christmas pork and eggs...  and I got up shortly thereafter,  in time to take a seat, and eat.
I noticed the absence of Tallship, and Stitch told me, he left in something of a hurry that morning, muttering, 'I gotta go take care of this.'
And we opened presents.
I was disappointed that the presents, for Merry and Stitch, I had ordered by mail had not arrived (..were expected on Friday), but they did not seem at all annoyed by it, and all in all, we all had a good time.
Sunshine came out, and got to open her presents...
We were sitting around, relaxing, and Sunshine said she wanted to play a game...
So we started on a game of Trivial Pursuit,  with Stitch and Sunshine a team against Babyman and myself.
It took...awhile...but we finished it....
And she started on dinner.
She enlisted my help at times, and Stitch's at other times...
I went back to the bedroom, watching Newsroom, season six, episodes 5 and 6, which finished the season... 
Then I went into the other bedroom, and fixed the dresser drawers as She had asked me to do....
Dinner was served...
She said 'grace' and we ate....  and it was .... wonderful.
Stitch and I worked on the clean up with dishes, while She worked and storing the leftovers.
Then came dessert,  peanut butter and chocolate pie...
I went into the bedroom, to watch a Christmas-related episode of Scorpion...
And turned out the lights, around 21:45.

H sl S  204
H sl O  875
H sl D  876
H UN  825
Her DO  no
D sl C  31

Diary Wed 12.24

Off work 0900.
HOme 0930....
She was just waking up.
I was furious because there was nothing around for 'dinner'...She had told me, the night before, She had made pizza-bread, with leftovers in the fridge.... which were gone, because once again,  Tallship had devoured them.
I went to bed, hungry and angry.
She came in.... we talked....
I got up and scrambled a couple eggs, and mixed in a can of chili, warmed up in the microwave.
In bed, around noon.
UP, around 16:00...
Wrapped one present, to put it under the tree, prepared gift cards, 
 Started watching  "Newsroom" season 3, with eps one, two, and three...
She announced dinner to be ready: chicken and rice.
Back in the bedroom, I watched episode four... and dozed off towards the end, around eight o'clock.
Sunshine came to bed, very upset, even in tears, because of an electronic conversation between her and Tallships gf (June or August, or whatever the hell her name is)...
Got her kinda calmed down, and went to sleep.

H sl S  180
H sl O  851
H sl D  852
H UN  801
Her DO  no
D sl C  30

12.26 Thought for the Day

41 - 60  of 101 reasons to Spank Your Man

41. You'll love how his skin grows warm and pink.

42. Hugs and kisses (you can expect it of it as his payment for your hard work).

43. You will be his hero.

44. It’s wonderful to spoon after a spanking.

45. You can make him smile when you tease him about future spankings.

46. He'll adore you all the more for listening to his needs.

47. Haven't you always wanted to threaten to "tan someone’s hide,” and mean it.

48. It’s fun to collect and test various spanking implements.

49. It’s a great alternative to staring up at the ceiling.

50. He wants you to spank him, that is why he showed you this list!

51. It is a great way to settle an argument (although you are never wrong, even if you are, you win!)

52. You can help him break his bad habits.

53. A spanking from you will give him the opportunity to atone for his misbehaior.

54. A good spanking can relieve the guilt he feels when he misbehaves.

55. You can give him the gift that keeps on giving - his bottom will be sore for a few days.

56. His willingness to submit to you demonstrates his love for you.

57. A spanking from you will allow him to show you how sorry he really is.

58. Men are immature and because they often behave like children, they need to be punished like children - with a hard spanking on their bare bottoms.

59. It will help him come to terms with the fact that you are the boss in this relationship.

60. A spanking will remind him to be respectful and courteous to you at all times.

12.25 why should it be any different?

12.25 thought for the day, the 12 Days of Spankmis

A special Christmas

Diary Tue 12.23

OFF work  6:15.
Toilet...
Car  6:22.
Home,  6:58
DonnaDawg was sleeping on our bed, with Merry...  door to the bedroom closed.
I opened the door, and invited her to come out, which she was happy to do, and I fed her,  followed by the three cats who always hang around the bar area,  followed by my little Cookie.
I usually feed Bobo at the same time, but I couldn't find him.
Turned out, he was sleeping under the comforter next to Tallship, who was sleeping on one of the reclining chairs in the living room.
Then I looked for something to eat.
There were ...3 1/2 slices of bread left of the loaf that we had bought, oh, three days prior, due to Tallship's clear intention to eat us out of house and home, which is a huge bone of contention between Merry and me,  and which might drive me out of the house until such time that he is gone for good.
But I'll wait 'til after Christmas to do something like that.
No leftover meatloaf.  She made two of them, a few days ago.  Three of us (four of us? I think Coco had some) ate ... 2/3 of one for one dinner.  Tallship ate the remainder and the other whole one, in ...two days.
 No leftover black-eyed peas-and-ham.  She said later, there was none leftover, even that night after dinner. I remember differently, but what the heck.
There was ... half a cup of leftover chicken soup.  Fine.
That, plus a pack of baby carrots...a banana...  a piece of cinnamon bread from the hidden loaf, with peanut butter on it. Good enough.
Dessert?  We brought home a pumpkin pie from the dinner Friday night.... it had been cut into 8 pieces, and we brought home the six remaining pieces. 
 It was gone.
 I was disappointed... angry... but not surprised.

I went to the bedroom, undressed, ...and dressed again.... (it was COLD).
She was awake...we talked...  
She got up to get moving ...I went to sleep...  9?  9:30ish.

Awake around 15:00...to pee...
Looked at texts on my phone, from Her, and from my ex-boss at work....and email from Mom...  
Back to sleep 16:00
Up 17:25...
Ate an apple...
Watched Stitch run into the bathroom, just when I was getting ready to go in for a shower...
I sat and waited for Her to call, which I just knew She would, before I got in the shower.
She did....
THen I got in the shower...and dried and dressed...
In car 18:22... thought I might be on time/early...
Until I started doing oh 5 mph on the 710... once I got past the 3 car accident, it moved pretty good.
At work  19:25.

So quiet, my co worker left at 8:15.

H sl S  156
H sl O   827
H sl D  828
H UN 777
Her DO  NO
DAYS s l CIG  29

12.24 Thought for the day, a great last minute gift idea

12.23 Thought for the Day

21 - 40  of 101 Reasons to Spank your Man

21. Men who get spanked tend to be happier than those who don't get spanked.

22. Role play spankings are great fun.

23. If something doesn’t work, you don’t have to repeat it.

24. Spanking isn’t about the pain; it’s about a shared experience.

25. Spanking will open an exciting new chapter in your relationship.

26. Spankings promote greater physical and emotional intimacy.

27. Your willingness to spank him demonstrates your love for him.

28. It’s wonderful to feel completely in love, and completely loved, again.

29. With a safe word, he can tell you before things go truly wrong.

30. He's your lover - It's OK if your hands wander a bit.

31. The process of experimentation allows the two of you to grow together as a couple.

32. You are the one he wants to share this secret with.

33. Spankings don’t have to be serious – the two of you can laugh and joke about it before, during and afterwards.

34. He is likely to be willing to indulge in one of your fantasies in return.

35. Consensual spanking is not abuse.

36. Spanking is a huge turn-on for him, and that can only be good for you!

37. He won’t think that you are mean if you’re doing what he asked.

38. Dressing up can make things even more interesting.

39. With a few simple rules, adult spankings are safe and fun.

40. You, as well as other women, are more powerful than you think.