Tuesday, July 15, 2014

7.14 Diary

Off work and rolling home  6:34
I think I feel asleep  22 times on the way home... only for a micro second, woken up by the bumps embedded in the freeway surface.
Home 07:34.
Fed the critters...
Went into Her bedroom, and lay down next to Her long enough to tell Her I was too tired to do anything but eat, then go to bed.
Which I proceeded to do.
...Eat,  finished Sunday's paper, and read Monday's, while talking to Her...
and to bed, 10:00.
Awake at 1100 P&S
Sleeping  from 1200 to 1615,  and wide awake.
Around 1815, SD&D.
Sidetracked with talking, didn't get in my car until  1900.... a bit later than I like, even on Monday.
At work  19:40.

Fairly easy night...
   Relatively speaking....
15 cars on yet another Fox event, at Paramount...
And I don't know what the FUCK was going on at LAX....but I had to delay with 8 to 10 delayed flights,  coming in between 0130 and 0330,  and explaining to chauffeurs why I need them to stay awake to do the pickups.

HsLS  45
HsLO  45
HsLD  47
Hr Lk /un 164/46
Her DO  No


from How to Get the Spanking You Want

Instead, you’re better of sticking to the facts and leaving the analysis of why things went wrong until later. For instance, you might simply explain that it hurt more than you were prepared for or that you were having trouble breathing or that you momentarily got emotionally overwhelmed.
Focusing on just the facts will help diffuse the tension of the situation and create a safe space where you and your partner can talk about what went wrong and work together to help it not happen again. Sticking to the facts will also help to reassure your partner and give him a sense of control and safety – as we’ve discussed, men tend to be most comfortable dealing with facts rather than emotions.

Step 6: Take your spanking.
If you want to establish a positive spanking relationship, you are probably better off finishing the spanking instead of just abandoning it entirely. This is similar to the classic advice about getting back on a horse if you fall off, so that you’re not afraid to ride horses for the rest of your life.
You may feel able to get back on the horse, so to speak, within a few minutes after things went wrong. Or it might take an hour or a day before you feel safe enough to take the rest of the spanking. But whatever you do, you’d be wise not to leave things the way they are.

Why?

Because you are much more likely to feel more anxiety when the next spanking rolls around if you haven’t stepped up and taken the one you didn’t finish. And this anxiety might, in turn, make it even harder to take the next spanking and so on and so on, until you’re in a such tangled mess of anxiety that it becomes difficult or even impossible to get yourself back out of it.
In addition, if you don’t step up and finish your spanking, you are probably going to feel lousy about yourself. You may, for example, feel like a coward, a fool, or even a hypocrite – spanking was your idea, and you couldn’t even go through with it!
You may also feel restless and incomplete, like you heard the first seven notes of the musical scale, but not the eighth one, or watched all but the last 15 minutes of a really good movie. Or like there was something really important that you had to, but can’t remember what it is.
So when you feel ready to do so – but ideally no later than the next day – go to your partner and ask him, respectfully and with great humility, if you could please have the rest of your spanking, (sir)?

And this time, stay in position and take your spanking like a good girl (or boy)… ?!        The End

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