8.31 on chastity for couples

Chastity - Some of Her Concerns

If your wife is not dominant by nature she may be worried that you want her to become something which she feels incapable of being. She may agree to your chastity desires just to please you. Is she submissively agreeing to your domineering need for submissiveness? She may begin to wonder why you want her to change, and to question whether you love her as she is? She may start to question your whole relationship .

Some women will be concerned that your fetish means you will not be the man she married. Perhaps one of the reasons she loves you is because of your manliness and because you have always made the first move sexually. She may be worried that you will change in to some indecisive slave, when who she married was someone with his own mind and an animal in bed. You need to carefully explain that she will be controlling your desires without diminishing your qualities as a man. There is no reason why a man locked in chastity can’t initiate sexual playtime. Part of your wife’s version of dominating you may be to insist that you make the first move to orally serve her, to give to her as many orgasms as she would like, and then to gently massage her shoulders as she falls asleep, while you have been denied your own orgasm.

The main thing is that you both progress from turning fantasies into reality at a pace which is comfortable for you both. This initially will need to be judged by you. So be careful and don’t push the idea too fast, unless of course she wants to! You cannot teach her to be dominant, you need to allow her to find her own style, and if it is not as strict and as domineering as you would like, then you must adjust your own expectations, and to accept what she wants of her role. A submissive male in chastity should gladly accept his keyholder’s methods and techniques, his goal in life is to please her.

I know if she’s open to the idea of keyholding, her mind will be planning little ways to tease and excite you, just thinking of how to excite and deny a man is as equally arousing for the woman as wearing the device is for the man.

In addition to delighting in the sexual pleasures she will receive from your newly improved attentiveness, she will begin to appreciate the extra tasks you will perform around the house. She will soon realise that within almost every woman is the potential is become the loving dominant partner of the relationship.